From: TURTLE              
To: JONBOY              
Subject: Plastic people 
Date & Time: 02/22/91 21:25:15
Message Number 12509

>The second worst are the ones that come on like decent human
>beings [and]...decide there are things that need to be changed.
 
I'd put them at number 3. Number two are the people who come on like
decent human beings until the magical instant you start having a
Relationship, at which time you become part and parcel of their
property...they suddenly feel they have the right to control
who you see, where you go, what you do and when, etc. I've known a
couple of people like that, although never had to deal with any on
any sort of a "going-out" relationship. Speaking of which: I never 
could grok the distinction a lot of people see between relationships
(ie, close friendships) and Relationships; to me they seem to be on
a contimuum, but a lot of people I've talked to seem to see them as
qualitatively different. Ditto for attitudes like "I love you; I'm just
not 'in love' with you," as though emotional intimacy comes in different
flavors. Manifest Bullshit if ever I saw it.