From: Le@yabbs
To: htoaster@yabbs
Subject: should we?
Date: Sat Apr  2 21:58:20 1994

 
wondering if I (or anyone) sees someone spending so much time on a bbs 
that
it could be engulfing a huge amount of their time that we should worry 
about
why they are doing this, etc...

Okay, it would seem pretty obvious that someone who spent an
overwhelming amount of time would have reasons for doing so.  But should
we worry?  If the reasons are destructive, yes I suppose we should
worry.  If I decide that I am so unattractive that I can not show my
face in public, and thus only interact through a BBS, I would see that
as a cause for worry.  But if I used to spend 8 hours a day watching tv
and now I spend 8 hours a day on yabbs, well that more a trade-off
on how I spend my time.  I guess what I am saying is that the motives
are different for different people, and I don't know if we should
pry into other's lives by asking them why they are here so much,
as I personally would find that offensive.  But if I felt that I had
built a friendship with someone on a BBS, and I knew that their
reasons for being on one for 8, 10, 15 hours a day were unhealthy, 
then I might feel comfortable enough with them to go ahead and discuss
it.  But as for judging other people on the basis of how they
spend their time and live their lives, I don't think that's appropriate.
To each his own, as long as he's happy and doesn't mess with me.