From: TURTLE              
To: SCOTT STEEL         
Subject: Relationships  
Date & Time: 05/03/91 23:36:50
Message Number 16470

>Okay, enough bullshit... an open relationship can /ONLY/...workl if bot
>partners want it that way...
 
Yes. Precisely. It can't work if both people don't want it that way.
 
>...first you say you would insist on faithfulness, then you say it's
>bullshit to start a relationship founded on sexual fidelity.
>That doesn't make sense.
 
It certainly does. I am happy with a relationship that is either open
or closed. However, if my partner wants it closed, then it is
/closed/...no fooling around. I don't think it's bullshit to have a
relationship that's based on sexual fidelity; I think it's bullshit to
believe that a relationship /must/ be founded on sexual fidelity. I
know for a fact that a lasting, intimate, stable relationship can be
sexually open; therefore, statements like "no open relationship can be
intimate" are bullshit.