From: CRYSTAL             
To: THE SPECIALIST      
Subject: Say how?       
Date & Time: 05/02/91 00:27:12
Message Number 16423

Yes he did do it with pryor aproval.  And no he was not a better lover
then Turtle.  But so what if he was.  Turtle means more to me then just
an excellent fuck any way.  Tim however was, at that time a friend, r
roomate, and a person that I slept with a few times, and yes it was just
a few.  Tim and I did not sleep together to begin a relationship, we 
slept together to have fun, and it was fun. But that all it was, now 
when Turtle and I sleep toghther it is fun plus a whole lot more.  The
whole lot more part is what keeps us together.  That is the part I have 
never shared with any other partner.  At least we are honest about our
needs, and when we are atracted to other people we tell each other, we
don't hide it.  We discuss it, If one of us does not like something 
about an outside party then the rules are set and followed.  An example
I am interested in someone. I tell Turtle.  He says no.  I say Ok. And
life goes on.  It can only be exciting if he would not be upset about 
what I was doing.  This is where you don't understand, I think, I do
believe you think an open relationship is constantly everyone having sex
with everyone else.  No.  It only works if everyone involved is happy.
If I am not happy about someone, then nothing happens.  If he is not
happy about someone , then nothing happens.  In the last 4 1/2 years
between the two of us we have had a total of 5 lovers.  Now that is 
Turtle 3, other then me, and Crystal 2, other then Turtle.  Now, how
many people, maybe yourself included, have had more monogomas 
relationships then that.  My sister is a good example, she is strictly
monogomas.  She became active at the age of 17.  She is now 20.  In this
time she has had 7 monogomas relationships.  I became active at age 18.
I am now 25.  I have had 6 lovers.  Three of them were before Turtle.  I
don't know weighing the odds, my sisiter has a greater chance of 
catching something then me.  Now what are your, or your friends odds?
Anyway I am running out of space.  Think about it.