From: THE SPECIALIST      
To: TURTLE              
Subject: Say how?       
Date & Time: 05/01/91 18:55:18
Message Number 16395

T>while I was living in Fort Myers my best freind was also Kelly's 
T>lover.
T>Your point please?
 
That your best freind was screwing your girlfriend.  Some friend.  Tell
me, did he do this with your prior approval?  Is not, then I would have
been tempted to kick his ass, *prior* best freind or not.  If you *did*
give permission ahead of time, or it was understood that you wouldn't 
mind, then let me ask you this:  what if Kelly had decided that he 
was a much better lover than you had *ever* been and decided to drop
you like a rock?  Oh, surely, this could never happen between you and
Kelly, but for us other "abnormal sexual relation" type people, this 
is somewhat of a common occurance.
  You may be quite proud of the fact that you and Kelly have been 
together for a long time, and I congratulate you heartily. (Seriously.)
But almost NO ONE else is as set in that particular mindframe which you
two seem to be in.  THEREFORE you must certainly be able to see why
all of us "strange" people don't participate in "open" relationships.
Society in general, it seems, cannot successfully accomplish what you
and Kelly have been able to, and it is a rare, lucky couple that can.