From: SCOTT STEEL         
To: TURTLE              
Subject: Relationships  
Date & Time: 04/30/91 23:20:41
Message Number 16371

T> If I were involved in such a relationship, I would be absolutely 
T> fathful to my partner--and I would have /no/ tolerance for 
T> lack of faith on my partner's end.  The point I am trying to make is 
T> simply that an open relationship that is not immediate grounds for 
T> terminating all contact with that person.  The attitude that a 
T> relationship must, or even "should," be founded on sexual fidelity is
T> Manifest Bullshit--especially when the people involved will /claim/ 
T> that their relationship isn't based on sex while still behaving as 
T> though it were. 
  
Ok, enough bullshit...an open relationship can /ONLY/, /ONLY/ work
if and only if both people want that kind of relationship.  Period. 
If I want a committed relationship with someone and they want an 
open relationship, then I will not date them.  Period.  
  You said, "I would have no tolerance for lack of faith on my 
partner's end," then you said, "The attitude that a relationship must, 
or even "should," be founded on sexual fidelity is Manifest Bullshit.  
especially when the people involved will /claim/ that their relationship
isn't based on sex while still behaving as though it were."  That seems
like a non-sequitor to me, first you say you would insist upon faithful-
ness, then you claim it's bullshit for someone to believe in a 
relationship founded on sexual fidelity. 
  That doesn't make sense.