From: SAAVIK              
To: DRAGONFLY           
Subject: Huh-uh         
Date & Time: 04/30/91 21:47:22
Message Number 16364

Drf>If you tryly love someone, the BEST way of finding out about your
    partner's love is to set them free. 
  
Er, um.... I ain't exactly got a collar and lead on him. He is free to 
go and do as he pleases.... and it pleases me that he doesn't want to 
go and "do" anyone but me.... we have a monogamous relationship... if 
tomarrow he came to me and said...." Amy, I want to have other lovers.."
I would take an evening and really think whether or not I could handle 
that then give him my feelings... I wouldn't stop him if that was what 
he wanted.... but I would discuss my feelings with him after careful 
consideration.... for one: I would want to know why he wants other 
lovers, if it's something that I am not fulfilling or what.... for two: 
I would want to make damned sure that there is not someone else he wants
in his life, but just doesn't want to hurt me or lose me.... 
We have tried to be very honest in our relationship, at one time, we did
have an open relationship and we went back to being monogamous when we 
both started to feel a little jealous.... we've been together for 11 
years this summer...... I would be a little afraid of losing him .... 
do you know what I mean?