From: DRAGONFLY           
To: THE SPECIALIST      
Subject: Whoops...      
Date & Time: 04/29/91 15:31:23
Message Number 16281

(I feel better, now. We do disagree.)
    
> I quite plain and simple don't want to catch anything that she might
> pick up from someone else.
     
   That's a perfectly logical and rational reason to insist on mutual
monogamy.  No -- she might not catch something (or he might not) if 
[s]he sleeps with someone else who is infected... but why take chances?
    
> And on the other hand, if she needs someone besides me, then quite
> apparently she doesn't need me.*
    
   *Klank!*  Huh?  That makes no sense whatsoever.  The fact that you
might not be able to satisfy all of your girlfriend's needs does NOT
mean she doesn't need you.
   
   In my relationship with Jenn, we were (and still are!) very close 
friends.  But we didn't share all of the same interests.  We both enjoy
certain things (cooking, science fiction, and unusual movies), but we
both have some very different interests and different friends.  I can't
talk with her about certain topics, because I know next to nothing about
them:  she turns to other friends for that.  I can't talk with Jenn
about all of my interests, because she knows next to nothing about them.
(For example, I can't talk "math" to her, without taking about an hour
to explain the basic concepts first.)
    
   We learned very quickly in our relationship that we CAN'T be every-
thing to each other... but that it didn't matter.  As long as we had
each other for the emotional support, and as long as we shared interests
in common, we were still in love.
   
> ...I have no lover that wants to sleep around.
    
   I sure didn't!  And neither did Jenn!  A person can't control whether
they want to sleep around or not: but they can control whether or not
they actually sleep around.
                        //Dragonfly//