From: TURTLE              
To: DRAGONFLY           
Subject: Say what?      
Date & Time: 04/26/91 23:48:11
Message Number 16131

>/Trust/ is NOT the absence of jealousy.
 
No. Trust is what you have when you believe your partner will not
deliberately do anything to hurt you. Jealousy is your own insecurity
vented on another person or object.
 
>You can't control your feelings.
 
That's only true to a certain point. You CAN control the way you respond
to the people and situations around you. You can also control your own
self-image. Ain't nobody in the world can affect your own mental state
unless you /allow/ them to...although you can allow someone by inaction
as well as by action.
 
I say again: Trust is integral to a stable relationship. With no trust,
there is no stable relationship.
 
Jealousy is destructive to any relationship. Jealousy is a reaction
governed by one of the most ancient portions of the brain--the limbic
system--and should be left to the lizards and lower life forms where it
properly belongs. Jealousy has no part in the mind of an intelligent,
self-determining being. Jealousy is the single most vicious, hateful,
destructive emotional force in existance, and where there is jealousy
there is a relationship in trouble. Period.