From: SAAVIK              
To: KNIGHT OWL          
Subject: $ and AIDS DRs.
Date & Time: 03/28/91 20:19:49
Message Number 14365

For some strange reason, a quote from Clint Eastwood comes to my mind.. 
"Dyin' ain't much of a living." I guess it's because I somehow feel that
someone who is dying, and they KNOW it, doesn't have much to look 
forward to in the long run. Therefore, a simple phone call from a friend
would be the highlight of their day. Just a little thing like a visit 
and a magazine...., maybe a new tape to listen to.... anything that
shows that you care.  I realize that it's hard to come up with something
to say to someone is dying... that's why many people would avoid the 
situation of visiting a "ill" person. Same goes for a friend or family
member who has just lost a loved one. 
A while back, my husband's friend lost his wife, my husband began to 
avoid him. His reason: He felt uncomfortable in the face of his friends 
grief because he didn't know what to say to help. 
It's not really a case of knowing what to say or do....., sometimes all 
you have to do is listen, and just be there.