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 -=> Chris Gilliland was shooting the bull with Regina Finan about update on 
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 -=> Quoting Chris Gilliland to Donna Ransdell <=-
 
 CG> One question:  If you got the teachers you wanted (well, sorta...),
 CG> then why homeschool?  Why yank them out -at all- after they've made
 CG> friends and adjusted to a school-day schedule?  Couldn't you enhance
 CG> what they've learned at school, at home and start thaem with
 CG> home-schooling during the next year?  Give it a definite cut-off
 CG> point, instead of in the middle? It'll help things flow easier.  Well,
 CG> that's how I feel about it anway...  ;)  BTW, I've always found taht
 CG> the more children I have, the less of a chance I have of getting a
 CG> school system to cooperate with me.
 
 RF> It could be that she isn't quite positive she will do that.  Maybe if
 RF> things go the way they should she won't.  Also even if you like a
 RF> teacher and the way that teacher teaches, that doesn't mean that
 RF> teacher will work for your child.  My son had a teacher like that.  I
 RF> really liked her, but when it came right down to it, she did him more
 RF> harm than good.
 CG> My daughter had a teacher I LOVED when she was 9.  *I* thought she
 CG> did her students a world of good, but it was rumored that she was one
 CG> of the 3 yellers that school employed.  I didn't want that, but she
 CG> listened to ME, as the parent...  She even gave more credence to the
 CG> full-time mother(s) as they spend more time with the children, as
 CG> opposed to the fathers, who may work full-time.  More often than not,
 CG> she'd turn to me during a parent/teacher conference and say,"So, what
 CG> do YOU think, Mom?"  I LOVED it!  I wish all teahers gave mothers
 CG> credit for their efforts!  :)
 
 RF> Plus if you have more than one child it can cause
 RF> alot of harm if you decide to homeschool one, because they need it and
 RF> not the other.  One of them can feel left out or forgotten.
 CG> I would have more patience with my boys, but would not be able to get
 CG> through to my daughter.  That would be a deciding factor for me.  Of
 CG> my 3 children, it's my middle who needs and would benefit from it the
 CG> most.  He's an eager student, but lacks some social skills.  He's not
 CG> a favorite with the teachers because of this.
 CG> 
 Best listen to her advice, you only allowed one mistake and once made, there
 is no correcting or undoing it.....it isn't like buying a home, or baking
 a cake.  If you don't like the new home, you can always sell it and move
 elsewhere, or if you mess up baking a cake, throw it out and start over,
 but with a child, one chance is all you get.....you can't buy a new replace-
 ment and you cannot throw the child out and start over.....you are stuck
 with whatever you.....
 I do agree, there are a few bad teachers, go to the store and look in the
 apple section, bet you can find a few bad apples there too.....but by far,
 most teachers have only the students welfare at heart.....and they have been
 trained for their profession.  How much have you been trained to be a
 teacher, let alone trained to be a parent??
 If your daughter needed brain surgery, would you perform it because you
 didn't like the doctor??  Of course not!!  You would look for a different
 doctor more to your liking......well, the same goes for teachers and
 schools......and don't give me that old sob story that it just costs to 
 much!!  So does brain surgery, but if your child needed it, you wouldn't
 blink an eye to go into debt for the rest of your life to save your child.
 Well, school is no different, you want the best for your child, and your
 child cannot get the best at home....I don't care if you have a degree
 in teaching, or education, or nuclear physics, you cannot teach your
 child as well as someone else who has been trained to do it objectively.
 To much parental pride to deal with, and you do not want the child growing
 up to hate you........I know because there were 6 of us who had our father
 as not only teacher, but he was our father and our mother too after our
 mother passed away when my baby sister was 4 months old......and none of
 us had that child/parent relationship like most kids.....it was child/
 adult relationship we all had with teachers as we grew up......I couldn't
 stand to be around my father until I was nearly 40, nor could any of my
 sister's or brother......not that we didn't love him, but we had had more
 than enough of him growning up.....we had him around all day at school, all
 night at home and every time we wanted to go to a school function, he was
 one of the chaperones.............don't misunderstand me, we were close in
 a way that could only be shown by being apart.....if you can understand
 that........today we live just 4 blocks apart and I make it a point to force
 myself to go visit him once per week.....he is now nearly 85, I am 52.
 Well, take care, and let go of the child and let her grow up, she will....
 no worry on that point.....just show love for her and she will turn out
 better than most kids these days.....you can take that to the bank and
 deposit it!!
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