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 -=> Chris Gilliland was shooting the bull with Zaynab Richmond about So 
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 ZR> Cimeron (my behavior problem child) misbehaved at the meeting... the
 ZR> only kid  misbehaving as is often the case.  It is disheartening,
 ZR> however today she  returned to school at the special ed school she
 ZR> attends in Concord.. and it is such a relief to have some quiet time
 ZR> again!!!  When she's not here, Aaron is  a very quiet and easy going
 ZR> kid. 
 CG> Zaynab, this is almost always the case with our 3 children.  Our
 CG> daughter, who's ADD, drives everyone NUTS while on car trips, etc.,
 CG> but get the boys alone and it's heavenly!  Too bad my husband couldn't
 CG> see this!  HE says it's because I'm a poor mother...!  Grrr....  It's
 CG> virtually impossible to find enough things to keep HER distracted! 
 CG> :( 
 CG> How do YOU handle it when your daughter acts out?
 CG> 
 CG> Chris
 Hello Chris:
 Don't mind me, I just get upset over parents who think they can school their
 children better than those who have been doing it all their lives.....and I
 am the first to agree that there are, I am sorry to say, bad teachers...but
 most teachers are devoted to their work or they wouldn't put up with the
 rotten pay, the long hours after the final bell rings, the extra work that
 they must do by being chaprones at school functions, the long hot summers
 they must spend in summer school brushing up on new techniques, and in a
 good many cases, completely new course subjects that were not available to
 them as students....like computer programming, etc.
 Now, of course your daughter is going to act up when she is around the other
 siblings....that is as normal as the sun rising in the east and setting in
 the west.  Kids have a "pecking" order within the family organization, and
 once that has been firmly established, for the most part things will level
 out.  We raised 7 of our own, 2 sets of I.D. twins born just 11 months apart
 and the other 3 were born very close together after that so that they all
 had been born in less than 5 years!!  Our saving grace was the fact that the
 grandparents were around (my wife's parents) and they were raised in Vietnam
 until the youngest boy was 7 years of age.....and the pecking order there is
 not as pronounced as it is in this country.....teachers have to go through
 it with 30 or 40 kids, until the pecking order in the classroom is estab-
 lished there can be some trying times, especially with high school, and now
 middle or Junior High school students....but it happens every year in the
 fall.
 Alright, if your school aged child is either physically or mentally 
handicapped
 and not able to attend institutionalized education (public or private 
chool,
 but institionalized, not home schooling) then by all means, school them at
 home.  That is what homeschooling was set up for.......but now parents are
 taking advantage of it as if it were set up for every child, which it was 
not.
 A great dis-service is being done to a child who is able to attend school in
 an institutionalized setting outside the home.
 If you feel the school is not doing enought to educate your child, then get
 involved with the school, don't hurt your child's chances of going as far
 as possible in life by attempting homeschooling...unless of course it is
 the only way for a child to receive any education....
 Wishing you the best, please read some of my other posts in this conference
 as they deal with other homeschooling parents, and some of the facts I have
 mentioned may prove interesting to you.  And may convince you that home
 schooling is not in the best interest of the child except as a last resort.
 Take care, Luck be yours with God's blessings;
 James Prior
 CG> ... Cat, n.  Small mammal with an attitude problem.
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