TL> Joe Delahaye wrote in a message to Thom LaCosta:

 JD>> It will likely take a long time for her to get over that.  I dont
 JD>> think I  would wish that on my worst enemy.

 TL> Couldn't agree more.

Ya know... here in FidoNet, we trash on each other like it's just
"alright". Maybe that's the nature of the hobby, when we don't
see each other face to face.  The "HUMAN" things though, despite
echo personalities and such, is when the humanity of the people we may
think different of comes out.

Thom... I have suffered some things in my life, very similar to what
happened to your daughter, and had to deal with them.  I took action on the
last one, because I had to.  To be honest, I would really wish I never had
to, and even though I did, I will never be happy over it.  It would have
been much better if the problem wasn't there to deal with in the first
place.

The supposed "satisfaction" that was gained over it, wasn't
enough, and never could be. Although time has passed since then, there are
deep scars in on my end, and nothing can solve them. There are also very
deep scars in me over it all.

I don't know what to say, except that by the nature I have seen of you,
that it is likely that you and yours have a handle on things, being very
much into reality, and down to Earth, and that with time, the amount of
healing that can be humanly acceptable will be achieved.

Best wishes,

Phil

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