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> On 18 Mar 2005 15:17:39 -0800, hesacopontheedge{at}yahoo.com wrote:
>
> >Sorry, but who wants geezers? -F.R.
> >
> >BACHELORS BEGIN TO LOSE UPPER HAND
> >The Wall Street Journal
> >Biological clock starts ticking for bachelors looking for mates
> > By Nancy Anne Jeffrey
> >
> >Adam Rosen has a law degree from Villanova and trained in
> >psychology at Harvard. Heıs also handsome and has a passion for social
> >causes. But thereıs one thing the 37-year-old bachelor doesnıt have
> >in hislife: candidates to be Mrs. Rosen.

Mr. Rosen is unfortunately 5'2" 220lbs. wears glasses with 1/2" lenses and
lives at home with his mother. Not a good example  lol



> >
> >"I thought Iıd be married by 30,² says the Boston therapist.
"This is
> >agreat divergence from what I imagined my life would be."
> >
> >Thereıs a new biological clock out there ? the one ticking inside
> >bachelors. After decades in which men statistically had the upper hand
> >in the datingworld, the demographics have reversed: For a big chunk of
> >the dating pool people ages 30 to 44  the number of single men and
> >women are now about even, or in some cases, slightly tipped in womenıs
> >favor. The odds are especially dismal for men looking for younger
> >mates: By 2010, according to
> >the U.S. Census Bureau, men in their late 30s and early 40s will
> >outnumber women five to 10 years younger by two to one.

Erm, that's not exactly young haha There are plenty of girls in the 18-25
range :o)



> >
> >Whatıs happening here is a subtle but significant change in the birth
> >rate. While the numbers of men and women born every year are roughly
> >the same, the overall birthrate dropped 40% from 1955 to 1973. Because
> >more than half of all men marry younger women, that means their pool of
> >prospects shrinks a bit every year. ³The tables have turned,² says
> >Sherry Cooper, an economist
> >who has written about demographic shifts. ³Guys in that 35-year-old
> >range are going to have a harder time.²

Yes, a much harder time with the 18 year olds:o)



> >
> >
> >Matchmakers and dating companies are already seeing the impact. Social
> >Circles, a New York singles group, has seen membership among 35-to
> >44-year old men soar 25-fold since it started in 1997, while women in
> >the same age group grew at about half that rate. At Itıs Just Lunch,
> >which pairs professionals, the percentage of female membership dropped
> >9% in the last three years. And online firm Match.com is so anxious to
> >recruit women, it started a new ad campaign to find more. The pitch:
> >Women no longer have to
> >rely on ³fate² or ³destiny² to find the right mate.
> >
> >³Weıre all chasing after the same women,² says Jim Hague, a
> >33-year-old Web designer from California who says he got only a handful
> >of daily e-mails from some online services

Maybe if he actually went out and met some females instead of reading
e-mails from desperate 40 somethings he'd find something.


.. His female friends,
> >however, got 200 e-mails a day. ³They can easily delete you,² Mr.
> >Hague says. Indeed, 40-year-old Suzanne Mulroy got so many e-mails from
> >her service that she put it on hold.
> >
> >³I thought Iıd get a response,² Ms. Mulroy says, ³but I didnıt
> >think I was going to get this deluge.²
> >
> >All of which, of course, is a significant shift from the 1980s; at the
> >start of that decade, for example, there were about 1.3 women for every
> >eligible man from 35 to 44.

Now how many 44 year old men are looking for a female the same age? lol


 The odds were even better for the narrower
> >group of men in their late 30s dating women in their early 30s: Almost
> >two women for every single man. Many people still remember the 1986
> >Newsweek article that famously, if controversially, declared that a
> >single, college-educated,
> >40-year-old woman had a better chance of being killed by a terrorist
> >than of ever tying the knot.
> >
> >But in the years since, the odds have gotten worse for the one-time
> >supermale. Far from an abundance of bachelorettes, today thereıs a
> >small shortage for every million thirtysomething women, there is a
> >surplus of 80,000 men of the same age.

But men in their 30's don't usually want females in their 30's  lol Besides
with the money men save by not wasting it on these 30 something US females
they can fins all the YOUNG females they want in other places.


> >
> >Men looking for younger women will find even more competition: Within
> >nine years, there will be one woman 30 to 34 for every two men 35 to
> >44, according to one set of projections by the U.S. Census.
> >
> >How did this shift occur? For starters, with more women than men on
> >the dating scene, men played the field and postponed marriage ?
> >sometimes until their 40s, much later than previous generations. (The
> >percentage of 35- to 44-year-old bachelors almost tripled from 1980 to
> >2000, according to the U.S. Census Bureauıs Current Population
> >Surveys.) Thinking they had tons of options, especially as divorce
> >rates grew, some men got pickier, too, demanding not only good looks
> >but also good jobs from their mates. That narrowed the field even more:
> >By one estimate, men in their early 30s making
> >$75,000 or more outnumber women of the same earning power two to one.
> >
> >All the while, pop culture only perpetuated the belief that men had the
> >advantage, with shows like ³Sex and the City² and novels like
> >³Bridget Jonesıs Diary² harping on themes of the desperate, single
> >woman.

They are desperate in their 30's. What usually happens is by the time
they're 40 if they're not married they just resign themselves to being
spinsters and bitch for the rest of their lives about how bad men are.


 And lots of people still believe it. ³Men feel they have the
> >upper hand,² says Lisa Doherty, a 40-year-old public-relations
> >executive. When sheıs gone on dates, Ms. Doherty says men have told
> >her they want a younger woman.
> >
> >But slowly, evidence of the shift is cropping up. Take personal ads,
> >the quintessential dating device of the ı80s and ı90s.

Were they? I've never known one person to use them.


 While the
> >ratio of men to women placing ads varies from city to city, many towns
> >are seeing notable jumps in male advertisers. At Chicago Magazine, for
> >example, the percent of personals placed by women skidded 38% in just
> >two years. During the past
> >three years, the percentage of men placing personal ads in the
> >Cleveland Plain Dealer jumped 14%, according to People2People Group, a
> >firm that creates personals.
> >
> >Other men are going where experts say they need to ? older women. When
> >Match.com polled its members earlier this year, the company discovered
> >that its average male client is now willing to date a woman three years
> >his senior, up from two a few years ago. At Itıs Just Lunch, men 35 to
> >43 are now asking to date women 36 to 40 ? up about four years from a
> >decade ago.
> >
> >(In other words, it's time to settle! -F.R.)
> >
> >THE DATING CONSULTANT
> >
> >Things have gotten so bad for 46-year-old Drew Clausen in Marina del
> >Rey, Calif., he has started using a ³dating consultant² who
> >specializes in training unattached men on how to attract a woman. For
> >$600, Mr. Clausenıs consultant advised him to wear a Rolex watch, buy
> >black shoes and not talk about his divorce. The investment is paying
> >off. Instead of just pining after his ideal ? a 35-year-old brunette
> >Mr. Clausen just hooked up with a
> >³gorgeous² 43-year-old redhead. Using the consultant made him ³more
> >open to other possibilities,² he says.

haha a guy who can afford a rolex and has been married doesn't need any help
learning how to pick up girls lol He spent $600 just so he can go out with a
43 year old grayhead? lol Great consultant  haha
I'm going to look up this guy's tel. # and give him some free advice that is
if he even exists lol




> >
> >(In other words, he settled. -F.R.)
> >
> >Indeed, once either shy or scornful about blind dates, males are
> >becoming more aggressive about asking to be set up, matchmakers say.
> >They also have become much more open about the fact that they use
> >dating services. A study by Itıs Just Lunch shows that eight years
> >ago, the average male client kept his membership a secret from his male
> >friends; today, the typical male customer tells three of his friends.
> >
> >So when will things get better for members of the lonely hearts menıs
> >club? Not until the generation born in the late 1970s and early 1980s
> >comes of marriageable age, according to demographers.

haha if a girl is born in the late 70's early 80's she's already 23-28 if
they wait any longer they'll have gray hair

 By then, higher
> >birthrates will tip the scales back in menıs favor. About 2005,
> >experts say itıll be rich pickings for men who now are in their early
> >20s.

And it will be even richer pickings for older men because most 20 year old
girls want an older man. Hey it's 2005:o))))))))


 Until then, men will just
> >have to keep going, much like New Yorker Eric Starkman, who swore to
> >friends he would be married by 40. Now, at 46, the bachelor spends
> >Sunday mornings at Starbucks,

So apparently he did nothing Saturday night.


 sipping a grande black coffee and
> >scanning the marriage announcements. ³I always feel good when I see a
> >guy who is 46 getting
> >married,² he says. ³I say, "Hey, thereıs hope.ı
> >
> >
> >(Better just grab your old stretched-out single mother now and start
> >paying for the Alpha Male's kids! -F.R.)
>
> What a load of crap!
>
> American women in their 40's and 50's with kids will knock doors
> down to find men to "date",

Females in their 30's will knock down doors! And travel almost anywhere to
meet a man.


 as long as you can put up with the
> squealing brats, the sagging breasts and the obnoxious manners.
>
> Who needs that kind of grief ?




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