American male wrote:
> I've been experimenting with the online dating scene.  As a 40 yr
old, I
> have found it difficult to find someone who wants to 'settle
> down'...especially with someone such as myself.

Good.  You're like a man who wants to get beaten up, but he can't find
anyone who will do it.  If you don't stop looking, you'll eventually
find someone, so stop looking.

You make a good living, and you obviously don't have any severe
emotional problems, or you wouldn't be kind, nor patient, nor
respectful.  Life is good.  Why do you want to screw it up by bringing
a woman into it?  Don't do it.  Find some other way to satisfy your
carnal desires, and leave yourself a means of egress.

> Most of the women I meet
> initially indicate kindness, patience, respect etc etc are the most
> important attributes they are seeking.  I possess those criteria.
However,
> although I make a respectable living,  I do not rake in a mega
salary, nor

So?  You aren't accountable to anyone for the amount of money you make
- unless you get married.  Then you have a _real_ boss, and she hires
you to make money.  One boss is enough.

> do I wear an expensive watch, or drive a fancy automobile.  I
characterize
> myself as financially conservative.  Most women appear to be desirous
of men
> who fit the aforementioned criteria, and if the are a 'nice guy' it
is icing

Nice schmice.  Be yourself.

> on the cake.  I feel it is BS when women indicate they want a nice,
caring,

You're certainly not wrong to think that.  Listen to what they claim
they want, then observe whom they date.  "By their deeds ye shall know
them."

> honest guy.  They should add an asterisk next to it that reads. "As
long as
> you have lots of money, have a great job, a full head of hair, in
shape, and
> are willing to spend lots of money on me as I am self centered and
high
> maintenance".

Yup, and you listed their laundry list in approximate order of
importance as well.  And just think, someone like that could be yours.
Wonderful thought, isn't it?  

If you want high maintenance, get an old, used Harley.  She'll be more
fun and better looking, and she'll carry you instead of the reverse.

> Most women my age or older realize that their biological
> clock has run out of ticks and have no need to marry to produce
offspring.
> In addition, most are independent and earn a salary that affords them
a
> comfortable lifestyle.  They have gotten to this point in life
without a
> man, why would they want a lowly male such as me?  Are they all
waiting for

You said it right here.  They want babies.  A woman can go to a sperm
bank, but she'd rather convince herself that she is normal and wants a
family.  Once she has that, she'll convince herself that she isn't
being treated well, or given enough, and she'll ruin her manservant's
life.

> Mr. handsome prince, CEO, muscular, good-looking, ivy league educated
etc
> etc to come and sweep them off their feet?  I would think that if
this
> proverbial figure does exist,  the competition would be intense as he
would
> be a rare and in demand commodity.

These men are few, and they tend to have a lot of partners, so you get
a gaggle of women banging the same man.  The women get angry about it
and bash considerate men like yourself.

> I'm beginning to think that if these
> women can not find "Mr everything wrapped into one", they will go on
living
> life as a spinster.

Good.  They're doing us all a favor.

> They sure are not breaking my door down although I keep
> myself fit and trim and am 'squared away'.

Sounds like you're not under too much stress either, and that's great.
Keep it that way.



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