> -=> Quoting Sean Rima to Maurice Kinal on 09-28-06  08:38 <=-
>> Beats me why their parents think I am safe for their kids to 'hang out'
>> with but they are right to assume that.  In fact I probably give them more
>> 'heck' than their parents do and am not afraid to talk with them about all
>> the stuff they falsely think they are getting away with.  We all know
>> ... don't we
>> I always find, in general, that other peoples kids are ok, it is
>> always mine that are not :)
> Actually, that's a general rule of thumb.  In most cases, the real
> conflict is between the child and his/her parents, as they get into the
> age to need to grow to be adults in their own right.  Other adults can
> step into the breach at that point as valued advisors, and the kid will
> have a reasonable relationship there.  Even the best of kids will
> probably have their drag-down-knock-outs with their parents, but will
> still be good as gold for OTHER adults, as long as they get treated with
> a modicum of respect and kindness.  And for most of the worst kids, the
> same will probably hold true, again with an adult who treats them like
> they are worth something after all...   :)

Yeah I think you are right. My young lad has problems dealing with things
that happened in the past with my ex wife, the problem is that they tend to
take it out on those closest to them

Sean

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