> Marti started off with that kind of thing -- reading all the brides'
> magazines, looking at the expensive gowns, all that folderol, which she
did
> NOT get the taste for from ME!!!

LOL
well, I think that's probably a natural starting place "I want it ALL!
" but then you start figuring what ALL that will
cost in emotional, mental, financial arenas and how *involved* it all is...
and many start thinking of what they *really* love and want --- which is so
much less in near every respect. That so many of them still wind up getting
shoved into the Wedding Juggernaut is not entirely their fault... it's like
having any other materialistic thing society thinks we have to have. Works
the same way for funerals, btw. Mom and I had an informal talk about that
when I was there recently. They're far overblown too, and *hideously*
expensive.

>
> However, after the initial blush, reality began to set in, and she came
> home with a very nice $50 white dress from Cato Plus which worked
> excellently well as a wedding dress.  The German-American Club rental
> wasn't terribly much as these things go ($350 or something, to have it for
> the entire day, including bartender, on-premises manager and his frau, and
> access to the kitchen for her catering sister), the DJ was a friend who
did
> the gig as a present to them, and such as that.  So she considerably
scaled
> back her expectations, and I think had a better time for it.  Oh, yes, the
> officiating official was a friend's father, a real estate lawyer/notary
> public who loves to do weddings, has a very nice service he wrote himself
> and which, of course, has variations to suit every bride & groom's taste,
> and who charges a bottle of Scotch for his services!  

:)
Very cool

> >I do NOT get the entire wedding juggernaut thing... seems to me such a
> >momentous event should be...well... not a circus.
>
> Keys and I had a very inexpensive wedding, and we were later vindicated
> when he came across one of those 'page a day' calendars that had various
> "laws" on it.  This one is Thoms' law:  "The duration
of the marriage is
> inversely proportional to the cost of the wedding."  We've borne that out.
> Heeheehee.

LOL :)
yeah, my mom and dad's wedding was not a huge thing either -- my mom made
her own wedding dress :) (and it's beautiful too)

> >Did anyone else here see the Dr. Phil show with the woman who wanted to
> >spend 48 thousand dollars on her wedding? (flying in dozens of a rare
rose
> >from God knows where... most expensive rose in the world)  Her fiance had
> >like 2k in the bank, and she was wanting him to take out a loan to pay
for
> >this thing... Dr. Phil looked at him and said "You're going
to *love* me"
> >and then basically asked if she was out of her mind  It
was a riot :)
>
> They're rerunning that one tomorrow in daytime here.  Heeheehee.  What is
> this girl thinking, for crying out loud.  Good for Dr. Phil for
> straightening her out -- if she really did listen, that is!  Sheesh!

never can tell 
but I sure hope the groom was thinking long and hard...
that's just a *serious* red flag for future happiness
or as Dr. Phil says "Ppl spend way too much time thinking about the wedding
and not enough time thinking about the marriage"

> Veloci--people is the craziest monkeys--raptor

lol
I like that :)



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