Hey Nancy!

Oct 01 15:02 06, Nancy Backus wrote to Maurice Kinal:

 NB> Some of my sisters were more flamboyant and out-spoken with their 
 NB> ways
 NB> of breaking away...

Right.  That sounds more like my daughters, although from my perspective
'flamboyant and out-spoken' wasn't exactly how I looked at it but they
probably did. 

 NB> My experience has been that if one is fair with kids, they respond
 NB> favorably.  This even worked when I and hubby were able to help my
 NB> youngest brother see M&D's point of view without provoking the usual
 NB> rebellions from him.

That can happen.  I am not sure if any 'input' I give the one kid that
shows up here from time to time has any effect but I figure it is worth a
shot.  His dad never complained about anything any time I've talked to him
so I suspect any 'input' at least isn't hurting anything.

 NB> when they inwardly do...  An uninvolved adult is safer to agree with. 
 NB> :)

Or safer to disagree with without causing any major disturbances in family
dynamics.  Mind you I still 'win' when that happens but I doubt the kid
ever feels he 'lost'.

 NB> When they get a little older they figure out that they CAN agree and
 NB> still remain independent... 

I am not sure.  I don't recall if that was an issue to me when I was a kid.
 Seems to me my older sister had that problem with my parents, especially
with my mother.

Life is good,
Maurice

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