Hey Nancy!

Nov 30 19:09 06, Nancy Backus wrote to Maurice Kinal:

 MK>> I hope we understand each other now.  I think we do.

 NB> I'm thinking so, too... :)

I knew we'd eventually get there.

 NB> No, and physical therapy only goes so far, too.

For me that ended over a decade ago when they finally decided what I
already knew, which was it was all up to me and there was nothing they
could do to make the situation better.  Since then I learned to compensate
but it hasn't been easy and others are the usual cause for further grief,
other then pain that is.  As a rule I keep my physical situation to myself
as I hate dealing with people who think they have a solution and can 'help'
me.  Shhhhhhh.

 MK>> As it should be methinks.  Would you have it any other way?

 NB> Um...  Put it that way, no.    Just imagine having it all needing 
 NB> to
 NB> be learned at once, and the situation(s) that would force that to
 NB> happen!

I cannot imagine that or perhaps I don't want to imagine that.  I am
certain we'll get to where we're going soon enough.

 NB> agree that the situations in which you would use the term
"respect" 
 NB> to
 NB> describe your feelings is the primary usage of the term.

Yes.

 NB> further,
 NB> that that is probably the level of respect that others expect to get
 NB> from us, even when they *don't* actually deserve it.

Probably.  Doesn't mean they will though and there are many ways to handle
the situation if push comes to shove.  Personally I'd rather just side step
most of that and is usually my first attempt at a proper resolution to the
matter at hand. 

 NB> I
 NB> think that some of the seemingly contradictory uses of the word stem
 NB> from.

Quite possible.

 NB> Where we differ, it would appear, is that I am willing to use 
 NB> the
 NB> term respect also in the sense of respecting the person as a person, 

Probably.  I don't use it lightly just to please someone unless I see no
other alternative.

 NB> But
 NB> that is turning out to be more a semantic thing, after all... :)

I am not so sure but am not sure how much it really matters other then to
my inner self who appears to be nitpicky on the area of respect.  Stinkin'
inner self.

 NB> And we don't always get a choice as to who we have to deal with..  
 NB>  

Yes.  However if I am to have a space I can call my own I would prefer to
pick and choose who I want to share it with.  Same could be said about
single malt scotch.  Right?

 NB> It's nice when most of them turn out to be those that we can respect,
 NB> especially when it becomes a long-term thing... :)

For sure.  Even short-term or crossing-paths thingies.  Those can be very
good and often evoke fond memories later on in life.

Life is good,
Maurice

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