Hey Nancy!

Nov 01 01:04 06, Nancy Backus wrote to Maurice Kinal:

 MK>> Like everything it has it's upsides and downsides.  Overall lately I

 NB> Exactly.

Always a silver lining?

 NB> Different strokes for different folks ("and so on and so forth..." 
 NB> )

That too.

 NB> When one is single, there are simply different types of relationships 
 NB> to
 NB> deal with.

Yes.  That does happen although mostly with other single people unless you
count relatives.

 NB> But I wasn't intending that statement to put down any one
 NB> that was single, just to state the (mostly) positive side of not 
 NB> being
 NB> single before I stated the possible negative aspects thereof (which 
 NB> many
 NB> singles don't want to even consider, when they are hell-bent on 
 NB> getting
 NB> out of the "single state").

For sure.  I used to dwell on that sometimes but so far have remained
single.  I don't believe that is/was a mistake.  It isn't because I haven't
met anyone that potentially could have altered that state but instead
differences in goals and lifestyles.  I have a nasty fear of rose gardens
and white picket fences for some strange reason.  Suburbia too.  I don't
fit in too well with the 'normal' desires.  I am not sure why that is but I
do know that it is so.  I certainly don't deny those lifestyles to anyone
but it definetly isn't 'me' for whatever reason.

Now?  I am old and crabby?  :-)

 NB> It would appear that you had a reasonably good relationship then, 

Probably respect.  I am guessing that it worked both ways since neither of
us intentionally harmed the other.  I am not suggesting that there wasn't
any thought of it but instead we both didn't REALLY wish the other any
harm.  All things considered it worked out the best it could have.  I think
even our children would agree with that even though if we had toughed it
out together the children would have been fine with that as well.  It isn't
like there were pots and pans flying around or anything of that nature.  I
did and still do have love for my family.  That never changed.

 NB> to the breaking up of it.  Part of the work of keeping a relationship
 NB> going over the years is being able to still stay connected even 
 NB> when/if
 NB> developing different lives... sometimes not at all easy to do, and I 
 NB> can
 NB> see where that would lead to a parting of the ways.

We stay in touch except not as often as it used to be.  That part has been
tough but everyone concerned still survives.

 NB> I'm somewhere between antisocial and a social butterfly myself.  

I think it is a good place to be.

 NB> spent quietly away from people...   I agree, we'd probably have a
 NB> fine time, sipping our scotch and chatting away... :)

I think it would be fun.  Not too often though as scotch is really
expensive but I think we'd both enjoy the moment to it's fullest and
appreciate the moment for what it really is.

 NB> :)  Yeah, the ones our cat's allowed to have are likewise quite
 NB> "religious"...  

Somehow that doesn't surprise me.  It's been cool here recently so today I
am wearing nonreligious socks.

Hm.  Always a silver lining.

Life is good,
Maurice

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