Hey Nancy!

Dec 12 20:43 06, Nancy Backus wrote to Maurice Kinal:

 NB> Well, if the grief can be short-circuited by saying something that's
 NB> actually a good thing.  (And are you suggesting that you live alone
 NB> because no one else wants to stick around such a curmudeon...?

Probably a HUGE part of it.

 NB> Or 
 NB> that
 NB> it's your decision to live alone so as to avoid external, and most
 NB> internal, grief?  )

That too except it only needs to come into play if and when the curmudeon
part fails.  

Probably ESPECIALLY if and when the curmudeon part fails now that I think about it.

 MK>> Something like that.  Either that or just continuing out of spite.

 NB> And then good comes serendipitously...?   ;)

Heh, heh.  Shhhhhh.

 MK>> definition of respect.  I don't believe appearances to always reflect
 MK>> reality, in this case inner true feelings.

 NB> Perhaps another way to describe it would be that this "low-level" 
 NB> form
 NB> of respect would be seen as a *potential* for respect?

Maybe or probably more of there needs to be some "low-level" form
no matter if the potential part fails.

 NB> That when one
 NB> first meets someone, there is a potential either for respect or for 
 NB> the
 NB> lack thereof...?

That is a tough call.  I think I'd rather not consider any future and let
what happens happen when it needs to happen.  How about you?

 NB> gained.  In that sense, respect is lost, even if never truly had in 
 NB> the
 NB> first place.

Interesting way to look at it.  That probably would work for me.

 NB> Yup.  And yes, I also refrained from citing any particular examples,
 NB> though I have enough of them myself.

Understood.

Life is good,
Maurice

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