> -=> Quoting Sean Rima to Nancy Backus on 10-01-06  00:35 <=-
>> Actually, that's a general rule of thumb.  In most cases, the real
>> conflict is between the child and his/her parents, as they get into the
>> age to need to grow to be adults in their own right.  Other adults can
>> step into the breach at that point as valued advisors, and the kid will
>> have a reasonable relationship there.  Even the best of kids will
>> probably have their drag-down-knock-outs with their parents, but will
>> still be good as gold for OTHER adults, as long as they get treated with
>> a modicum of respect and kindness.  And for most of the worst kids, the
>> same will probably hold true, again with an adult who treats them like
>> they are worth something after all...   :)
>> Yeah I think you are right. My young lad has problems dealing with
>> things that happened in the past with my ex wife, the problem is that
>> they tend to take it out on those closest to them
> A. those closest are probably the safest ones to act out with, and B.
> those closest are also the most available ones...   Gotta just love them
> anyway, even when needing to take them to account for the wrong
> behaviour... and let them know that they are loved for themselves no
> matter what.  The past stays as some sort of baggage, but hopefully
> he'll be able to work past it for the most part.  Helping him past is
> probably mostly your job.  And a very sincere "good luck"
with that.  :)

That is what I was telling her but when you are at the sharp edge,
sometimes it is hard

Sean

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