> -=> Quoting Sean Rima to Nancy Backus on 10-01-06  00:32 <=-
>> were worse.  His reasoning went something like that boys are more
>> straight forward in their defiance, where girls are more sneaky, so you
>> think that things are under control and then you suddenly realize that
>> they really aren't!  They both can really be monsters... or great kids,
>> depending on which moment we are looking at!  
>> There are definitely benefits to being past that stage in our lives!  :)
>> There are benefits, to knowing the past. I think I would have had all
>> girls. He is as sneaky as any female (god what have I done) and he is
>> having problems as well stemming to his past which don't help
> The two could well be connected...  Sneaky can be a response to
> situations.  Not necessarily anything you would have (or could have)
> done, either.   I'm not sure I totally agree with my husband's
> reasoning, either... I've seen more variation just across the board,
> either sex, than particularly male or female.  Catty, sneaky males...
> and brash, openly defiant females...  and lots in-between!
> We only had the one child, a boy (not by choice, but that was all we
> could have)... but my siblings more than made up for us, with more than
> 30 nieces and nephews just on my side of the family...!  And we're a
> close enough family (not always geographically, though) that I've had
> plenty of dealings with most of them, at one time or another.
> Sometimes one can inculcate, or at least encourage, openness in a kid.
> Trust plays a large part in that... but, as we've been saying, when the
> kid gets to be a certain age, it almost needs to be an adult other than
> a parent, just because of the dynamics of becoming one's own person as
> an adult that necessitates a separation from the parent.  The parent-
> child relationship needs to evolve into an adult-adult relationship, to
> stay healthy (or to become healthy, in some cases).  And that is usually
> a painful process...  usually survived, though... :)
> ttyl       neb


LOL, yeah but I think the females have the edge :)

Sean

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