Hey Nancy!

Oct 22 20:05 06, Nancy Backus wrote to MAURICE KINAL:

 NB> Hmmm...  Again a way that men and women aren't really all that
 NB> different... women's expectations and desires concerning men are 
 NB> usually
 NB> what get us in trouble, too. 

For sure.  That I know only too well especially when they tell me how much
I've disappointed them.  HUH?????  Seems to me I was just being me all
along.

 NB> I've told many a person, being single isn't the worst thing that 
 NB> could
 NB> happen to one...

Like everything it has it's upsides and downsides.  Overall lately I think
it is better then any alternative to it but that is probably because I seem
to be attracted to the independence and haven't met the 'special' one to
convince me otherwise.  Then again maybe I just prefer the independence.  I
wasn't unhappy being married most of my marriage and certainly didn't
become single to increase happiness, and if I did then it didn't work.  Not
to suggest that I am an unhappy single person but instead that happiness
wasn't the reason for either state of being.  

 NB> Being married to, or in a close relationship with, 
 NB> a
 NB> person that is good with and for you is a pleasure for sure, and 
 NB> worth
 NB> the effort that it takes to maintain the relationship.

I think that is true but being single that is probably easier to say then do.

 NB> But with 
 NB> someone
 NB> that is nothing but trouble, well, one might better be on one's own. 

I doubt 'trouble' was in either of our minds when we each decided to go it
alone.  I think it had more to do with living completely different lives
the last few years of our marriage which didn't do either of us any good. 
We parted on good terms or at least the best terms possible.  Our children
have expressed they thought all breakups were like that and were completely
shocked to discover that wasn't true with most breakups.

 NB> Good friendships will also fill the need one has for companionship 
 NB> and
 NB> connection.

Friends are good.  Speaking for myself I tend to lean slightly to being a
loner but not much of one.  I like to spend time alone but not always.  I
doubt I am antisocial but then again I am not exactly a social butterfly
either.  Currently I have a few close friends.  I find you easy to talk to
and I am sure if we shared a shot or two of scotch we'd both have an
enjoyable time chatting about this and that and enjoying the moment.

 NB> It always requires cooperation and often compromise as well to stick 
 NB> it
 NB> out over the long haul, whether it be with similarities or 
 NB> differences. 

For sure.

 MK>> never when they think I do.  I'd much rather they wanted to treat me 
 MK>> as a man but apparently that is asking too much which is okay as long 
 MK>> as I have little to do with them relationship wise.

 NB> I hear you.  :)

Thank you.

 NB> enough, btw).  She went back to her sock "kitten" gladly!
   There
 NB> are a lot of women out there who seem to be looking to
"mother" what
 NB> they perceive as "strays"...  I think they really don't know what 
 NB> they
 NB> really want any more than our cat did.  :)

I could use some new socks.  :-)

Looking at one I am currently wearing it is getting a tad too 'religious' (ie holey).

Tomorrow.

Life is good,
Maurice

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