-=> Quoting Maurice Kinal to Nancy Backus on 12-01-06  18:52 <=-

 NB>> further,
 NB>> that that is probably the level of respect that others expect to get
 NB>> from us, even when they *don't* actually deserve it.
 MK> Probably.  Doesn't mean they will though and there are many ways to
 MK> handle the situation if push comes to shove.  Personally I'd rather
 MK> just side step most of that and is usually my first attempt at a proper
 MK> resolution to the matter at hand. 

Agreed, that just because they THINK they deserve it doesn't mean that
they will get it.  Also agreed that there are legitimate ways to side
step an incipient situation (and that that can make conflict less
likely).

 NB>> Where we differ, it would appear, is that I am willing to use the
 NB>> term respect also in the sense of respecting the person as a person, 
 MK> Probably.  I don't use it lightly just to please someone unless I see
 MK> no other alternative.

Perhaps I should clarify just a bit...  I'm usually not using the term
directly TO the person, it's just the way I'd describe it to myself.  So
it isn't a case of trying to please someone (usually a futile task
anyway...!) by using it.  Just that my usual way of dealing with people
is to have an outward demeanor of graciousness toward them no matter how
I may be feeling about them inwardly.  And, as above, I'm not above
finding ways to avoid needing to deal with people where inward and
outward don't match up well...  ;)

 NB>> But that is turning out to be more a semantic thing, after all... :)
 MK> I am not so sure but am not sure how much it really matters other then
 MK> to my inner self who appears to be nitpicky on the area of respect. 
 MK> Stinkin' inner self.

LOL  I'm actually with you on that one, too, it would appear...  

 NB>> And we don't always get a choice as to who we have to deal
with. 
 MK> Yes.  However if I am to have a space I can call my own I would prefer
 MK> to pick and choose who I want to share it with.  Same could be said
 MK> about single malt scotch.  Right?
 
Absolutely...  on both counts... :)

 MK> For sure.  Even short-term or crossing-paths thingies.  Those can be
 MK> very good and often evoke fond memories later on in life.

True enough.  :)

ttyl        neb

... Thhis takline iz slitely out of cofus.

___ Blue Wave/QWK v2.20

--- ViaMAIL!/WC v1.60d