> -=> Quoting Sean Rima to Nancy Backus on 10-08-06  22:21 <=-
>>> have a reasonable relationship there.  Even the best of kids will
>>> probably have their drag-down-knock-outs with their parents, but will
>>> still be good as gold for OTHER adults, as long as they get treated with
>>> a modicum of respect and kindness.  And for most of the worst kids, the
>>> same will probably hold true, again with an adult who treats them like
>>> they are worth something after all...   :)
>>> Yeah I think you are right. My young lad has problems dealing with
>>> things that happened in the past with my ex wife, the problem is that
>>> they tend to take it out on those closest to them
>> A. those closest are probably the safest ones to act out with, and B.
>> those closest are also the most available ones...   Gotta just love them
>> anyway, even when needing to take them to account for the wrong
>> behaviour... and let them know that they are loved for themselves no
>> matter what.  The past stays as some sort of baggage, but hopefully
>> he'll be able to work past it for the most part.  Helping him past is
>> probably mostly your job.  And a very sincere "good
luck" with that.  :)
>> That is what I was telling her but when you are at the sharp edge,
>> sometimes it is hard
> True enough... and that's where support (for both child and parent, or
> steps) is so necessary to soften things, too.

Yeah it is and we are getting there, shame he seems to think he doesn't
need help but then that is usualy the case

Sean

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