-=> Quoting Maurice Kinal to Danny Ceppa on 11-07-06  21:37 <=-

 MK> If you say so.  Personally I'd rather leave it alone and let anyone I
 MK> ever was concerned about regarding this particular subject assume that
 MK> I am not the man for them and it was their choice to call whatever
 MK> actual relationship off.  Not that it has mattered recently but when it
 MK> did matter I found this the best way for it to end no matter how much
 MK> grief it caused me personally.  Overall that methodolgy proved to
 MK> create the least grief overall and I wish I had learned sooner then I
 MK> did. 

You remind me of a lesson I learned, the one graduate level course I
took.  Mind you, it wasn't a lesson the professor thought he was
teaching, but one that came perfectly clear to me in the event thereof. 
The prof had a mindset as to what characteristics a good counselor would
have... some of which I certainly didn't have.  Only after a traumatic
session in which he told me that he would have flunked me except that my
grades were too high to do so, and then proceded to tear me apart
because I didn't fit his concept (and that he would personally blackball
any attempts I might make to actually matriculate in their school), only
in the aftermath of that, did I come to the realization that actually I
was happy with myself the way I was, that I didn't have to change to fit
his standards in order to be a good counselor.  And, as a correllary to
that, that I wasn't going to take a job that would try to force me into
a mold of what I wasn't... if he was right that no place would hire me
like I was, then that was a place that I wouldn't be able to work for.

Change in itself isn't bad, but there are times when it isn't called for
in reality... 

ttyl      neb

... A battle never decides who was right, only those who are left.

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