Hey Nancy!

Nov 24 20:11 06, Nancy Backus wrote to Maurice Kinal:

 NB> And what I've been trying to say is that that latitude is also a form 
 NB> of
 NB> respect.  It would seem that in most ways we would act similarly... 
 NB> but
 NB> apparently, describe what we do with different words... :)

That does indeed seem to be the case.  I am using the word respect as it
pertains to the actual feeling of respect without any regard to the idea of
the need for the latitude that is required in order to maintain social
order.  I believe I've said this before but I also know that I am often
criticized for not being clear so ...

I hope we understand each other now.  I think we do.

 NB> To some degree, yes, I've had to, especially the physical,

Me too.  I was forced to relearn that quite awhile back and still have
problems with that.  The ol' grey mare just qin't what she used to be.  :-(

 NB> other ways.  Not that I've attained completely by any means... which 
 NB> is
 NB> why I referred to it as a process... 

As it should be methinks.  Would you have it any other way?

 MK>> intentions.  Sneaky doesn't always mean harm.  Does it?

 NB> Not in my book, necessarily...  but it does carry a connotation of
 NB> insincerity which I would try to avoid.  A sense of "putting 
 NB> something
 NB> over on" the other...  which more often that not does cause harm.

Yes but if respect needs to be forced in the first place then insincerity
would have to be built in.  That is why I chose to definet respect as the
real feeling without the latitude part.  The point is that I do recognize
that the latitude is required in day to day dealings with others but in all
honesty that doesn't mean I really respect these people although most
people that I do deal with on a day to day basis I do happen to respect. 
That isn't always true though.

 NB> It works best when the two are properly combined...  :)  Too often 
 NB> the
 NB> wiliness of serpents is used rather than the wisdom... and the 
 NB> weakness
 NB> of doves rather than their gentleness.  Or one is emphasised much 
 NB> more
 NB> than the other...  :)

I agree.  The truth is out there.

Life is good,
Maurice

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