Hey Nancy!

Dec 09 14:02 06, Nancy Backus wrote to Maurice Kinal:

 NB> In both cases, of course, it depends a lot on the circumstances.  
 NB> Some
 NB> external conflict can be avoided merely by not saying what comes to
 NB> mind... of course that leads to more internal conflict... ;/

Exactly.  I am not sure which is worse but if internal conflict can be
avoided without external grief continuing to be grief then I'd be inclined
to say what's on my mind and get it over with.  That is probably why I live
alone eh?

 NB> Yeah... both for good and for bad...   Encourages riding out the
 NB> storm, at least, in case something much better comes of it after all! 
 NB> :)

Something like that.  Either that or just continuing out of spite.

 NB> My point was more that it takes an awful lot of their doing to 
 NB> totally
 NB> lose my respect...

Understood.  My point was/is that one has to have respect before it can be
lost and that it isn't an automatic thing or at least I don't feel it
automatically despite the regular everyday latitude.  I realize that is
what others call respect and is where I differ in the definition of
respect.  I don't believe appearances to always reflect reality, in this
case inner true feelings.

 NB> would
 NB> be a constant reminder of the situation... like a spouse of a beloved
 NB> family member, as an example... 

Understood.  I could cite an example but I'd rather not.  One of those
internal struggles as it were that is best kept internally just to keep the
peace.

 NB> for a person, it's quite possible that it might go totally unnoticed
 NB> except by the truly perceptive (and that, unlikely to be that person,
 NB> but possibly by others who know me and the situation well enough).  
 NB> :)

I hear you.  I am aware of simular circumstances.

Life is good,
Maurice

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