Hey Nancy!

Oct 15 07:45 07, Nancy Backus wrote to MAURICE KINAL:

 NB> hm...  Good question.  :)   One could hope that it would be at worst
 NB> neutral...  ;)

Offhand I would think that is true.

 MB>  Of course, if the charm was merely superficial, it
 NB> could hurt if it served to cover up what would become major problems.

Yes but other attributes could also mask problems and argueably the
problems themselves would be the badness and not charmingness itself.  Also
one has to wonder if indeed charmingness is a mask of flaws.

 MK>> is - but that doesn't  preclude that you don't possess charm.

 NB> Thank you, I think...   Recessant genes, perhaps...?

I am not convinced it is genetic.

 NB> Hmmmm....  I think I see the flaw in your theory...  Second child in 
 NB> my
 NB> family was not at all charming (she was instead both more cold and 
 NB> more
 NB> heatedly violent), but the third child was...

Perhaps that is only a family dynamics thing?  Maybe you are too close to
be a good judge of your particular siblings and given that you are the
first, the second was forced to deal with you directly wrt pecking order. 
The third had all that groundwork taken care of by the second and thus may
cloud this issue from your perspective and thus only seems more charming.

 NB> Pecking order doesn't
 NB> seem to have worked quite normally in our group... :)  Or perhaps 
 NB> you'll
 NB> say that we are an exception that proves the rule...??  

Or fall within margin of error, whatever the margin of error would be if
there actually was a margin of error.  Details, details, eh?

 NB> Sometimes.  Probably no more or less than I, though...  ;)  
 NB> Compatible,
 NB> at any rate... 

Given the staying power I'd be forced to conclude compatibility is maxed
out.  As far as enduring relationships are concerned, compatibilty would be
the biggest factor, nevermind charm.

Hm.  What were you saying about convolution?

 MK>> Hm.  That poses an interesting twist to my theory.

 NB> I thought you might find it a bit interesting... :)

For sure.  Hadn't thought of that twist before this and have to wonder how
that would effect synchronicity, especially for later siblings if there
were later siblings.  Might be a phase shift.  If so then triplets or even
greater mutiple births potentially would cause a greater shift in phase.

 NB> She was* 
 NB> charming. 
 NB> Well-liked and respected by those she came into contact with,

Was she the first born of the two?  Also was her twin charming?

 NB> Exercise doesn't need to be a vigorous workout, you know... :)

Okay.  Just checking.

Life is good,
Maurice

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