>If you were raised like me, you were raised that girls just didn't do that
>sort of thing -- fight back.  It wasn't "ladylike."

No--I just had no training and no confidence, and wasn't willing to get into 
a fight because I was purely scared.

>Feh.  Being bullied
>isn't ladylike, either.

Damn straight. Or bullying (in the case of Shalanna's experience).

>I never taught my daughters to be belligerent (or
>bellicose, either), but I did teach them to stand up for themselves and not
>let anyone push them around.  Marti's coping way was to withdraw and be
>inner-directed, in effect ignoring the bullyragging.

Yeah, that was me.

>She has come out of
>that to a great extent, and absolutely tore up the pea patch in college.
>She really enjoyed that, much more than high school, partly because of
>being older and more mature in college than most other students.

I'm becoming more confident and outgoing myself; but it took a lot, 
including getting out of the most recent relationship I was in, to convince 
me that it was a Good Thing.

> >Lissa TookALongTimeToGetWhereIAm Wingling
>
>Me, too.  A helluva lot long than it should have taken, but oh, well.
>
>Veloci--at least I'm here now--raptor

Lissa Yeah,MeToo,AndHappierThanI'veBeenInALongTime Wingling

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