-=> Quoting Maurice Kinal to Nancy Backus on 10-02-07  03:13 <=-

 NB>> And of course, the adage... once burned twice shy...
 MK> Offhand I am guessing not, or at least not from my perspective.  Given
 MK> the  distance covered since then, and the lack of (or at very least
 MK> minimal)  animosity then and ziltch now, I doubt that adage applies
 MK> much.  I am guessing  mot meeting anyone I'd willingly trade
 MK> singularity for is the biggest factor  from my point of view.  Not that
 MK> it mattered, but also from all the females  I've encountered since my
 MK> newfound singularity - their's as well - lack of  willingness would
 MK> also explain continuing singularity. 

Unless the reason your marriage dissolved was also due to lack of
willingness for relationship, I'd say that likely that very lack is an
evidence of shying away from what could be hurtful down the road. 
Certainly understandable... and it isn't just animosity and rancor that
causes the pain, although that certainly intensifies it.

 NB>> I went through two failed engagements before the one that stuck.
 MK> Ouch ... I think.  Not sure.  I only had the one that led to the one
 MK> marriage.   Not sure if that means anything.

Probably doesn't mean that much, in the long run...  

 NB>> was particularly careful before committing to the third, which did,
 NB>> after all, work out.
 MK> Hm.  Third time is the charm?  I thought I had it cased as
 MK> second!?!?!?!?!?   What gives?

Read carefully above...??  "two failed BEFORE one that stuck"  2+1=3  :)
Had a number of other relationships before and between, as well...
I suspect that there was a certain level of both naivete and neediness
that worked against me until I was willing to pull back until I knew
better what I really wanted/needed and what would last...

 NB>> Makes a lot of sense, in actuality...   Different set of (and level 
 NB>> of) needs/interactions involved, for starters...  ;)

 MK> For sure.  Also never really growing up might be a big part of that as
 MK> well. 

hmmm...  You may have more in common with my son...  ;)   I think I may
have had to grow up too fast, in some ways... which left behind some
things I should have learned along the way...  :)   Kids don't see me as
"one of them", but as a favored aunt, at best... ;)

ttyl        neb

... Illiterate?  Me?  Hah! I know who *BOTH* my parents are!

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