SC>> Oh I forgot. I'd get less money if you sent Canadian. Oh well.
 SC>> :-( hehehe

 MK> Errrrr ... sort of ... from your perspective it would be less, but
 MK> from my perspective it would be more ... too much really.  ;-)

I guess that idea just went out of the window then, huh? :-)


 SC>> Hey, we are suppose to go into overkill when sending pics of our
 SC>> kids and grandkids. :-)

 MK> I was going to trim them down a tad byte-wise but never got around to
 MK> it.  The resolution was set to maximum and is overkill
 MK> computerly-speaking.  They'd probably make excellent prints though.
 MK> Haven't tried that as I don't have a printer, let alone one of those
 MK> fancy-dancey digital picture printers with the super-duper glossy
 MK> printing paper especially meant for digital picture printing.  I may
 MK> take them to a commercial printer and get at least one copy made up
 MK> suitable for framing.  Probably  cheaper then buying all that stuff.

My oldest daughter has a digital camera and doesn't have a computer. She takes
her pics to one of those machines where you put the disk in and can print out
the pics. The ones I've seen turned out pretty good and didn't cost too much
either. I know that one way you would really lose if you had a lot of pics to
print is the ink. I don't even have ink here most of the time.


 MK>>> Silver lining?

 SC>> I wasn't talking about the system, I was talking about society in
 SC> SC>> general though.

 MK> System, society, pot-eh-toe, pot-ah-toe.  No?

Not really, I was talking about people's attitudes about the divorced person,
not how the "system" handles things.


 SC>> I'm not blaming anyone but myself for picking the wrong
 SC>> partner and after 20 years I was sure glad it was easy to get out of
 SC>> it.

 MK> Understood.  However most these days bail out for as little excuse it
 MK> takes.  Then they expect half of everything when in reality that
 MK> SHOULD be half of all the debt, since that is all there really is.
 MK> However they don't see it that way.

This is funny because most people I know, even getting half, doesn't get much
because I don't know any rich people. My ex and I didn't even have anything to
split in half. In fact, *I* was the one who got the debt because of my own
stupidity. We separated for a couple years at which time I put all the
utilities in my name. We got back together and I didn't see the point of
changing the bills back to his name. My dumb ass lawyer didn't tell me that I
could give him half of those bills to pay, and that could be done legally per
the gas and electric companies. It was too late though by the time I talked to
them.


 MK> Having said the above I am not referring to your or my situation,
 MK> only what I observe around me.  My particular divorce wasn't bad.  We
 MK> both, my ex and I that is, left on as best of terms that could
 MK> possibly be given any divorce.  We still talk and are very respectful
 MK> of each other.  I still have feelings for her despite the fact that
 MK> I'd never be married to her again, but that has nothing to do with
 MK> anything bad ... other then my bad boy attitude that is.  :-)

My situation is the same as yours. Well, I wouldn't go back because of the
drinking, which although it drove me crazy living with him, doesn't bother me
now. He has a heart of gold and is a great father and grandfather.


 SC>> The
 SC>> reason I
 SC>> avoid relationships is that, with my financial situation, I don't
 SC> SC>> want anyone else taking on the burden of me. *Especially*
 SC>> them thinking I only want them for their money.

 MK> Same here.  Also I don't want to be responsible for anyone.  Dating is
 MK> okay but even there it is difficult given many, many good reasons.
 MK> Even friendship with the opposite sex is difficult, although I have
 MK> had a few female friends over the years. Not any lately though.

I've always had more male friends than female ones, even as a kid. Females have
a tendency to want "girl talk" about husbands, kids, how to
decorate the house,
etc. and although I love talking about the kids and grandkids, I'm just not
really into the other "girl talk". With all the friendships I've
had over the
years with men, I don't understand why you think it is difficult.

Sharon

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