-=> Quoting Carol Shenkenberger to Nancy Backus on 08-07-05  19:30 <=-

Guess I dropped into another black hole again this year...  I may be
telling the story in a less expurgated form when I get a chance (as
Maurice has already expressed interest...) but for now, short version is
that since mid-August my time has been totally swallowed by first family
and then other responsibilities... A friend for whom I am POA and proxy
went into the hospital last part of August, and in order to get her
home, I had to essentially sign my life away to the home health agency
that supplies her aides.  We have been working on a better solution, but
now we are in the waiting phase for that.  But I am rarely home except
to sleep (and that often in the daylight hours), so bbs'ing and even my
email has taken quite a back seat.  Things have eased a trifle, so I may
be showing up in spurts for a while, as I get a free moment or two...  ;/

 CS> Thanks!  Nancy, the settlement is in the final stages now.  Just
 CS> waiting to see if we get any money for Charlotte for college as had
 CS> been planned by the grandparents.  Sadly the MIL went a bit 'off' and
 CS> the SIL was not at all good at tending her as we were when we were
 CS> still there, so she got lonely and called for ambulance rides.  That
 CS> may have eaten up all the money from her house sale.

I hope there was something left after all... :)

 CS> I wish we could have been there as we were there for her and walked or
 CS> drove over every 2-3 days.  It was just 2 miles.  For 6 years, we were
 CS> there every other day or so.  Cut the grass, fix the sidewalk. Chat. 
 CS> Sadly, we've been in Japan for 4 years now and the SIL was not all
 CS> that much around until Mom got really sick.  No real 'blame' there but
 CS> Mom got pretty lonely once we left I think.

I hear you.  "Being there" for people comes naturally (or with just a
modicum of effort) to some, but not always for all...  and there are always
times when circumstances make it not feasible at all...  I had wished
that we could have spent more time with my MIL before she passed, but we
lived a couple hours away, and could only come for a weekly visit on
Saturdays.  We'd usually spend the whole day with her, though.  Before
she had her stroke, she and I had taken a number of trips together... I
really miss that, too...

ttyl            neb

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