Re: Re: trying again
  By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Tue May 12 2015 14:01:48

 NB> You must have been anticipating my response to the previous message.  ;)

  Well I was feeling gung ho about it at the time, but things have gotten to a
state where I'm really not feeling the extra motivation right now.  Besides, if
the guy was just making some mistakes out of the box, I don't want to pound a
nail in his coffin there.  Weird how my point of view has changed now that I've
got better income. :)

 NB> If they don't offer, or even that job doesn't pan out, there is still
 NB> volunteering... if you were to volunteer at, say, a rescue mission, you
 NB> might also gain/keep a healthy perspective on your own situation... ;)

  Definitely doing a Free Geek shift soon.  :)  I've been thinking a bit, as
well, about volunteering at a shelter though, too.  I've been _in_ that
situation before, but not in an urban area.  I think you're right it may damn
well put some much needed perspective on my situation.  It's been awhile since
I even has an ear to the ground near such things.  The last work I did in a
setting like that was as an intake specialist helping people like that out with
cash grants.

 NB> Kids in general tend to be masters at manipulation... give in once, and
 NB> they'll try to make it happen again...  one just has to stand firm...
 NB> every time... ;)  And if one does appear to be giving in, one should
 NB> explain why and in what way(s) this help is different from just doing it
 NB> for them...  ;)  He knows that you want him to look good as well as do
 NB> well... so you may have to (seemingly continually) explain to him the
 NB> difference, and how his doing it well on his own is much better all
 NB> around, at least in the long run...  Not that he'll act like he gets it,
 NB> but eventually it sinks in... :)

  That's pretty much what I do.  :)  I get compliments on my extensive
explanations for the reasons behind things to him all the time.  It's a really
nice bit of feedback to get, especially when things are low.

 NB> And priorities can shift, as pressing things come into play.  Currently,
 NB> I've been spending a fair bit of time with my mom in the hospital.. She
 NB> normally lives with one of my sisters, and there's another sister
 NB> besides me here somewhat locally, so all of us have been spending a lot
 NB> of time, trying to keep one of us (or a trusted friend) there around the
 NB> clock.  :)  Doesn't help my schedule any that the hospital is almost an
 NB> hour away from home for me, either... ;)  She is going home this
 NB> afternoon, so things will mitigate slightly, since there will be more
 NB> options for coverage once she's back home.  :)  Anyway... message
 NB> writing had to be relegated to bits of time found amongst the
 NB> leftovers...  

  I'm terribly sorry to hear that your mom was in the hospital.  Medical issues
are always bogus.  I hope that y'all were able to make her time in there
somewhat more tolerable.  For certain do not worry in the slightest about
packets taking awhile to trickle back out.  As always, IRL is more important,
especially when it's family.  I hope that things are doing better in that
situation, and wish you & yours the best.

  -D
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