-=> Quoting Damon A. Getsman to Nancy Backus on 12-Aug-2015 12:00 <=-
 DAG> Re: Re: stressful
 DAG> By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Thu Aug 06 2015 13:40:44
 
 NB>> Stubborn isn't all bad...   If she can turn her
stubborn to getting
 NB>> better, we should be fine...  ;)
 DAG> That is absolutely true.  I've seen some stubborn relatives of mine
 DAG> push through things that I never would've thought possible.  Not to
 DAG> mention a few things that I don't even think the doctors would've ever
 DAG> thought possible. Hell, my adoptive father ended up being the textbook
 DAG> case of the longest life lived with Kartagener's Syndrome.  He was a
 DAG> stubborn...  well fill in the rest of that sentence with whatever you
 DAG> like.  I have scars on my head from banging it with his up through my
 DAG> early adulthood.  *grin* 

I can all too well imagine...    Guess he turned at least some of
that stubborn to good use for himself... :)

 NB>> "But I read it on the internet... it HAS to be
true..."   
 DAG> I'm not sure which is worse, the people that say that, or the ones
 DAG> that tout FAUX News as an unbiased outlet to be taken at literal value
 DAG> at all times. 

Yes.   ;)

 NB>> I have a friend who tends to want to talk things out with me, at least
 NB>> in part because somewhere along the line I can get her to laugh... see
 NB>> the humor (even if it's just a twist on it, or dark humor) in the
 NB>> situation... even if she'd thought there wasn't anything good at all in
 NB>> the situation...
 DAG> Yeah I had some friends like that, still do, actually, but they're
 DAG> all thousands of miles away.  Although I have a relationship like that
 DAG> with my roommate quite a bit, but having a bigger circle of friends is
 DAG> still a loss. It's always good to hang out with somebody who can at
 DAG> least get you a cynical chuckle at whatever chips have got a person
 DAG> down. 

Have you totally lost contact with those other friends...?  Or can you
still call (or email) them if you really need their perspective...?

 NB>> Mostly joking... partly, though, along the lines of: even if you aren't
 NB>> planning to take him along, the sort of place you could would probably
 NB>> be a healthier place for you...  :)
 DAG> Well you're probably right about that.  Then again, my chances of
 DAG> meeting potential suitors in a place like that are about 5000% higher
 DAG> than anyplace else I'm going to go, and I'll admit I'm desperate.  Not
 DAG> like commence sexual relations with a cigar & Monica Lewinski
 DAG> desperate, but desperate for at least a little bit of validating
 DAG> flirtation and *keep your fingers crossed* maybe even a chance at a bit
 DAG> of a relationship/friendship. 

Desperate can get you in trouble, you know... ;)  Admittedly, sometimes
there can be decent people to meet there.... but generally it turns out
to have been a mistake...  :)

 NB>> As long as they are suitable suitors...  
 DAG> Those are notoriously difficult to come across in the standard
 DAG> meatmarkets. I'm trying to make sure that I do my research on the
 DAG> different places so that I'm not dealing with too much drama.  Not
 DAG> that it's avoidable in the club scene.

Meatmarkets of just about any sort can be problematic anyway... 
 
 NB>> And did you get there finally...?
 DAG> No.  :(  I'm a broken record on this, but I've always got an excuse.

Eventually the stars will all be in place and it will happen...  ;)

 DAG> This time it's that the VA messed up my meds again, and I was
 DAG> agoraphobic enough to not really be able to get out and get that
 DAG> program initiated.  At least the money is in place now, though, and the
 DAG> meds are restabilizing in my system.  So as soon as I'm able to go out
 DAG> in public again without carrying my shell on my back or finding a rock
 DAG> to scuttle under, I should be able to get there soon. Ugh I feel
 DAG> pretty bad about that, actually.  Yet in a way it's a good thing that
 DAG> I'm not in yet, because you pay whether you go to sessions or not, so
 DAG> if I would've been in already, and not comfortable enough there, the
 DAG> agoraphobia then would've meant a lot of wasted money there.  I
 DAG> could've at least taken Deschain to his practices, though.  *sigh*

It would have been nice to get Deschain into it... but it will come when
it comes...  :)

 DAG> We got to the church to socialize and are making it about 50% of the
 DAG> time now, though, at least.

And that is progress...  :)

 NB>> And/or you are earning too much by then... and/or are in a better
 NB>> neighborhood where the hanging out is safer as well...  :)
 DAG> Wait wut?  You mean by next summer?

I think so...  ;)  [Working on recalling the thread...]  Yup...  :)

ttyl         neb

... Cheerful pessimist: expect the worst then meet it with a grim smile.

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