Re: Re: stressful
  By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Thu Aug 06 2015 13:40:44

 NB> Stubborn isn't all bad...   If she can turn her stubborn to getting
 NB> better, we should be fine...  ;)

  That is absolutely true.  I've seen some stubborn relatives of mine push
through things that I never would've thought possible.  Not to mention a few
things that I don't even think the doctors would've ever thought possible. 
Hell, my adoptive father ended up being the textbook case of the longest life
lived with Kartagener's Syndrome.  He was a stubborn...  well fill in the rest
of that sentence with whatever you like.  I have scars on my head from banging
it with his up through my early adulthood.  *grin*

 NB> "But I read it on the internet... it HAS to be true..."   

  I'm not sure which is worse, the people that say that, or the ones that tout
FAUX News as an unbiased outlet to be taken at literal value at all times.

 NB> I have a friend who tends to want to talk things out with me, at least
 NB> in part because somewhere along the line I can get her to laugh... see
 NB> the humor (even if it's just a twist on it, or dark humor) in the
 NB> situation... even if she'd thought there wasn't anything good at all in
 NB> the situation... 

  Yeah I had some friends like that, still do, actually, but they're all
thousands of miles away.  Although I have a relationship like that with my
roommate quite a bit, but having a bigger circle of friends is still a loss.
  It's always good to hang out with somebody who can at least get you a cynical
chuckle at whatever chips have got a person down.

 NB> Mostly joking... partly, though, along the lines of: even if you aren't
 NB> planning to take him along, the sort of place you could would probably
 NB> be a healthier place for you...  :)

  Well you're probably right about that.  Then again, my chances of meeting
potential suitors in a place like that are about 5000% higher than anyplace
else I'm going to go, and I'll admit I'm desperate.  Not like commence sexual
relations with a cigar & Monica Lewinski desperate, but desperate for at least
a little bit of validating flirtation and *keep your fingers crossed* maybe
even a chance at a bit of a relationship/friendship.

 NB> As long as they are suitable suitors...  

  Those are notoriously difficult to come across in the standard meatmarkets. 
I'm trying to make sure that I do my research on the different places so that
I'm not dealing with too much drama.  Not that it's avoidable in the club
scene.

 NB> And did you get there finally...?

  No.  :(  I'm a broken record on this, but I've always got an excuse.  This
time it's that the VA messed up my meds again, and I was agoraphobic enough to
not really be able to get out and get that program initiated.  At least the
money is in place now, though, and the meds are restabilizing in my system.  So
as soon as I'm able to go out in public again without carrying my shell on my
back or finding a rock to scuttle under, I should be able to get there soon.
  Ugh I feel pretty bad about that, actually.  Yet in a way it's a good thing
that I'm not in yet, because you pay whether you go to sessions or not, so if I
would've been in already, and not comfortable enough there, the agoraphobia
then would've meant a lot of wasted money there.  I could've at least taken
Deschain to his practices, though.  *sigh*
  We got to the church to socialize and are making it about 50% of the time 
now, though, at least.

 NB> And/or you are earning too much by then... and/or are in a better
 NB> neighborhood where the hanging out is safer as well...  :)

  Wait wut?  You mean by next summer?

  -D
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