Denise noe wrote:
> Mary Eberstadt has a book out called "Home Alone" bemoaning the fact
that so
> many children are away from their moms (and dads) because of
dual-income
> families.  In the Louise Woodward case, Dr. Deborah Eappon was widely
savaged
> for not staying home full-time with her baby (she did cut back at
work to only
> 3 days a week).
> 	But it seems to me unrealistic to expect someone who has spent tens
of
> thousands of dollars and many years developing the skills for a
career to
> abandon it completely.  The problem here may be that Dr. Sunil Eappon
married
> another doctor.  If he had married across class lines -- a maid,
cashier,
> telemarketer, waitress, hooker, etc. -- he would have had a wife
happy to stay
> home full time.  There's no sacrifice of education if the  training
for your
> job consists of being handed a telemarketing script.  Dr. Deborah
Eappon could
> have had a stay-at-home-dad for her kid, IMO, had she married a
janitor, fry
> cook, cashier, telemarketer, etc.
> 	People, both men and women, who have careers should marry people who
have jobs
> if we want more stay-at-home parents.  How many of you think this
would
> alleviate the "home alone" problem and lead to more parents at home?
>
>


Sure. Absolutely. But human nature gets in the way of this
happening. What almost all women find sexually attractive in men is
competence, mastery, power -- significant in itself and preferrably
greater than her own. Any guy beneath her level of possesion of these
things will be perceived as a loser and she will feel insulted and
demeaned by his approach.
Telling full time professional women to solve their
family/relationship needs by supporting a beta male is exactly like
telling a guy to choose an obese, unattractive female because they are
available. Some people do indeed end up settling for that sort of thing
but successful people with money (male or female) are not going to ever
like it very much.
And it is a waste of time telling guys to get over their
"insecurities" regarding dating powerful women. They are being
perceptive when they stay away, that is all.
>               ****************************
> Denise Noe
> Koko the Signing Gorilla says: "Fine animal gorilla."
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