Spot-on. Tell her that you like children....OTHER people's children and have
no desire to ever have one. See what happens then. Be straight up with her
and see if she can handle that.

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In article , "Graham B"
 wrote:


> All,
>
> I'd like to thank everybody for offering advice on my original posting.
> Some of you warned to be careful to make sure she is not a 'clockticker'.
> At first, she appeared to be career oriented, strictly in search of a
> relationship for companionship.  Now the talk has shifted to "how much she
> likes her nieces and nephews" and how she "spoils her nieces and
> nephews"...and she has started asking me if I want to have children
> someday....Naturally, I've been giving a political answer and not saying yes
> or no, but what I think she is saying is "I want to have children
before its
> too late."  If I wanted children, I'd be going after a 20
something, not her
> at age 41, duh!  Are these women THAT dense?   There are qualiteis about
> older women that are desirable, however, fertility is not one.  Why is she
> asking me this?  It is obviously clear to me that if I wanted children, I'd
> be looking at a younger age bracket, and not her.  Common sense should tell
> her that being that I am interested in her, I most likely have no desire for
> children.  Is my reasoning on track here?
>
>
> "Graham B"  wrote in message
> news:gzlFd.666$0j5.392{at}fe08.lga...
>> I've recently met a 41 year old woman who was never married.  (I am 40)
>> She has been very candid about the fact that she has been career oriented
>> and independent as the primary reason for not being married.  She is very
>> passionate about her career and takes it seriously.    She also mentioned
>> that she requires personal space and ideally would like to meet a male who
>> is independent as she is.  Finally, she does not appear to be desirous of
>> children.  I have a lot in common with her and at this point she seems
>> very desirable.  However, a close friend of mine stated that posting to
>> this newsgroup would he helpful to analyze it from a devil's advocate
>> perspective.  Given the facts above, what is your honest opinion regarding
>> the pros and cons of pursuing this relationship further.
>>
>
>
>


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