On Jul 05 17:32 96, Scott Curry of 1:275/160 wrote to All:
SC>  He will be playing with toys and told it's time to pick up.
SC>  Immediately he becomes argumentative and fussy. Six or seven
SC>  attempts  later, I start reaching the boiling
SC>  point and begin to yell at him. I know this wrong and I am
SC>  really trying to correct myself with this. How did some of you
SC>  parents break yourself of this. Any help would be greatly
SC>  appreciated
The argumentative and fussy stuff is possibly not related to the ADHD.  In 
any case, when my son was between 6 and 9 we went through something like 
this, usually about homework.  He would get more and more frustrated because 
he just couldn't get a handle on the task.  Often he would have to reach the 
crying stage and calm down again before proceeding.
In any case, the other thing that worked was to stay calm but be a relentless 
presence.  If he was calm enough, then I could get results by breaking down 
the work into tiny steps.  "Pick up your toys" would lead to frustration and 
tears; "Pick up the blocks and put them in the box" would work, then "Put the 
box on the shelf" would work, etc.
Jerry Schwartz
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