In article ,
 "Hyerdahl"  wrote:

> Confused Guy wrote:

A troll wrote:



> > I'm feeling a bit down about being dumped by a 42 yr old never
> married "career" woman.
>
> Don't feel down; there are plenty of fish in the sea.
>
>   Is this normal?  She was attractive and in great physical
> > condition, but something tells me she was not relationship material.
>
> To bitter boys who fear strong independant women, she would not be
> "relationship material"; it sounds like she just wasn't into you.

And it appears the trolling has produced some bites. :-)

The difference between a "sexist" and a "strong, independant
woman" is that women who desire sexists at least get
something in exchange for putting up with him.  He
does pay the rent.

Any man whose in a position to not fear a "strong,
independant" woman probably doesn't need to put up
with her anyway.  What does she have to offer him
he can't get with younger, more attractive women?

> And
> that's ok, because, as long as you're not a sexist bitter boy, someone
> somewhere will be.  You just haven't found her yet.

HAHAHAHAHA!

As I said, the trolling has produced results!  (At
least for the troller).

On the other hand, if a man really believes this line
he has a long wait ahead of him.

>   She  is far too attractive to never have had the opportunity for
> marriage....
>
> She may indeed prefer the single life.

I hate to say it, but I agree with Parg here.

There's a feedback loop in place: As someone becomes
more independant, they become less motivated to
work for the benefits of a relationship both in
terms of their immediate rewards as well as the costs
of previous relationships.  For women there's
also the age factor.

Just as men shouldn't be told to wait around for
Ms. Liberated BUT agreeable to show up, these
women should be warned where the yellow brick
road leads.  Fortunately, Dr. Hewlett, the Style
section of major newspapers and Bridget
Jones are helping with that task.

> She  required lots of personal space while I was involved with her, but
> for some  reason I was attached to her.
>
> It's pretty easy to "get attached" to a competent, attractive person;
> if she wasn't your person, perhaps someone else will be.

Once again, I agree with Parg.

Many career women do appear attractive "on paper":
They are intelligent, often very accomplished, etc.
Unfortunately, this doesn't help men any since
this energy goes totally into them.  Apparently,
men are much better at "sharing" than women.

>  She also spent lots of time 'working hard'. > Nobody likes rejection,
> including myself...so guys please cheer me up and
> > enumerate through the reasons why she is over 40 and not married and
> tell me  all the bad things about her to lift my spirits.
>
> Putting down women just to boost your spirits may be a tad
> shortsighted, but be my guest

HAHAHAHAHA!

Now that's the pot calling the kettle African-American. :-)

>A more secure man would simply
>recognize that not everyone is going to be into you, and move on.

I'll agree with that.  However, only insecure men
would put up with the crap from such a woman to begin
with.

regards,
Mark Sobolewski


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