greg1199{at}yahoo.com wrote:
> Confused Guy wrote:
> > I'm feeling a bit down about being dumped by a 42 yr old never
> married
> > "career" woman.  Is this normal?  She was attractive and in great
> physical
> > condition, but something tells me she was not relationship
material.
>  She
> > is far too attractive to never have had the opportunity for
> marriage.... She
> > required lots of personal space while I was involved with her, but
> for some
> > reason I was attached to her.  She also spent lots of time 'working
> hard'.
> > Nobody likes rejection, including myself...so guys please cheer me
up
> and
> > enumerate through the reasons why she is over 40 and not married
and
> tell me
> > all the bad things about her to lift my spirits.
>
> Well I needn't tear her down to lift your spirits.  This isn't really
> about her.  It's more about how you percieve and handle rejection.
> It's such harsh word, isn't it?  Rejection.  But the concept isn't
> harsh.
>
> Being a man in the dating game is a bit like being a salesman.  If
you
> want to succeed at it, you have to tolerate rejection, because
> rejection will always happen.  If a salesman can't handle it, he has
go
> find some other career, which is fine.  If a man can't handle it, he
> has to stop the dating game, and that's fine too.
>
> Rejection in dating is universal, so it doesn't mean that there's
> something wrong with you, or that you screwed up somehow.  Indeed,
the
> truly unusual man would be the one who never got rejected.
>
> So, if you want to continue at this, do as the salesman does.  Live
> with the people who say no.  Find those who say yes.  You can't do
the
> latter without first doing the former.
>
> As far as she goes, she may be uncomfortable with commitment or
> intimacy. Perhaps she sensed that the two of you were getting close,
so
> she broke it off, and this may be the pattern she's been on for the
> last 20 years.  Beyond that, it's not worth speculating.  The best
you
> can do is forget her and move on.



Or, you can be like Greg, and buy yourself a Playstation2.

Then, when you lose to the games, too, you can return to the crutch of
philosophizing about your lousy life in terms of money by exploding
about the mentality of the people who wrote them.


It's a great system for dealing with adverse reality:

1)  Philosophize.
2)  Go buy something.


It will guarantee that your whole life will be as a loser who ducks his
head everywhere he goes; but, in the meantime, you'll be accepted by
society as someone who is willing to be taken advantage of.  Try it.



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This has been another enlightening moment, with:

Turin


I have such sites to show you...
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http://members.fortunecity.com/turinturambar/
http://groups-beta.google.com/group/Men_First/
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"He who changeth, altereth, misconstrueth, argueth with, deleteth, or
maketh a lie about these words or causeth them to not be known shall
burn in hell forever and ever...."

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