Andre Lieven wrote:
> "Richard J" (RichardJ{at}Nononospam.com) writes:
> > I am a 39 yr old male and have found it difficult to find a steady
> > relationship these days.   Most of the women I meet fall into one
of two
> > categories:  1) Want children before it is too late   2) Don't want

> > children, but are highly accomplished from a career and educational

> > perspective and tend to be VERY independent.   I do not desire
children,
> > so my efforts focus on group #2.  This group does not appear to be
> > marriage and family oriented.  Most of these women like to travel
around
> > the globe, read,
> > drink wine, exercise, shop at yuppie stores and other things to
keep
> > themselves occupied.  They seem to get along just fine without a
man and
> > have gotten very far in life WITHOUT a male such as myself.  What
are my
> > options in life?  I honestly don't believe these career girls want
a man
> > around all the time.
>
> They don't. So, avoid those types of wimmin.
>
> Go and look for women, perhaps younger, in places where families
> tend to gather. Avoid bars. Really avoid office parties.

Hello Andre,

This is somewhat useful advice but note that the man says he doesn't
want children.  If he goes through families, he may get more stable
women who want children later, but he'll still probably wind up with
women
who will eventually press him for them.

Perhaps he doesn't want older biological clock tickers who want
children IMMEDIATELY and have questionable motives and morals.
Also, he says he sees the childless women as independent but
what does he expect?  If they have remained childless up until
now, should he be surprised?!?!

He has to be willing to compromise.  Fortunately, he's in a good
position demographically.  He can have sex with a lot of these
independant women he may meet through bars, dances,
museum openings, etc. and provided he wears a condom,
be somewhat emotionally safe.  OR... he can date 40 year old
divorcees who have grown children.  They are out there.
He's JUST old enough that there are some women his age
ready to be grandmothers.  That sounds icky, but he gets
the best of both worlds as he would describe it:
Women who aren't too independant but at the same time
don't want more children.

There are also women who are sterile and open about the fact.
They would welcome a man such as him that wants the
companionship of a woman but doesn't want children.

regards,
Mark Sobolewski



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