> BJ> one of the reasons co-worker fraternization is usually frowned upon.
> BJ> The trouble is, when you spend all your waking hours at work, how do
> BJ> you meet anyone?
>
> A couple of weeks ago I saw an interview with some arbiter of
> manners and mores
> -- forgotten who -- who was saying just that.  She said that with people
> working long hours, bringing work home, and always being "on the
> job" at the
> whim of a pager or cell phone, that the old stricture on mixing work and
> romance was now obsolete.

It was probably always un-realistic, but these days... jeez. The ppl I know
best are those I work with. You all know my life is tethered to my job every
hour of the day and night. The really sad thing is that even if I wanted
to -- I don't have time for co-workers any more than I have time for ppl
outside my job. One couple I know met while working at Shepards. Married,
and say the fact that they work in the same place (different departments and
floor of the building even) is a benefit for their marriage because they
both understand the job element. The only ppl I know who *get* my job are
those who have/had a similar one -- like Icebear, or the Tygress. Everyone
else I know hates my job. They don't understand why I "have" to answer the
pager every time, why I have to work so many hours, why I can't just take
off for the weekend etc etc. I often feel like a medical intern (for the
hours worked) or an air-traffic controller (for the pace and stress) and yet
I work for a stinking *phone company* so it's not like all those hours and
all the stress are going in to saving lives or serving some noble purpose.
So even *I* have a hard time living with it... I can't *imagine* being
married and expecting a spouse to buy into it (Kees certainly couldn't) ...
unless I met that spouse at work so that they knew all to well what it was.


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