greg1199{at}yahoo.com wrote:
> Harold W wrote:
> > I've recently met a 40 yr old(very close to my age) who is a very
> nice
> > person.   She asked me if I desired children.  I responded that I
had
> a
> > desire when younger, but as I have aged, I've become set in my ways
> and
> > children are not on my radar screen.  She responded with some
garbage
> like
> > "oh I wasn't planning on children either, but when my niece was
born,
> I
> > changed my mind as she is such a sweet girl"    Basically, I was
> politely
> > trying to tell her we are really too old to have children.  Well
not
> me, but
> > she certainly is.  I certainly would not marry her unless I knew
her
> for at
> > least a year or two.  That would put her at age 42.  Probably take
> her a
> > year to get pregneant(if she still can)...By the time she pops a
> child out
> > she will be in her mid-40's.  Not an attractive proposition for me.
> > Anyways, she is a sweet girl and I would like to know how I should
> tell her
> > in a polite tactful fashion "If you want kids, look elsewhere
because
> I am
> > running."
>
> Break up with her.  If she says she can do without kids, don't
believe
> her, and don't stay with her.  Break up.  Every time you are with
her,
> you risk getting in trouble, because she knows she hasn't much time,
> and she doesn't much care how she stops the ticking clock.  If she
has
> to decieve you to have a baby, she'll convince herself that it's OK,
> and she'll do it.  Get away.
>
> As far as the breakup itself, make it short.  None of this "let's be
> friends" business, and no trying to console her.  Take about five
> seconds to tell her it's off, and get away.  Don't hang around for
the
> fallout.  Better yet, do it by phone,


Email's a good way, too.


> and don't listen if they tell you
> it's unchivalrous.  If she comes over, do not answer the door.
> Whatever you do, don't let her in your house, because she may not
> leave, and if you toss her out, it's assault.
>
> Ever heard the song "50 Ways to Leave Your Lover?"  It doesn't talk
> about politeness or tact.  Paul Simon just says to get it done and
move
> on.  Of course, he said it much more poetically than I:
>
> "Hop on the bus, Gus,
> You don't need to discuss much
> Just drop off the key, Lee
> And set yourself free."



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