The Promised* Definition of Friendship

                                                        27 March 2005
                                                   {HRI-20050327-V2.2}

                                                  Easter Sunday, 2005

                                                         (Version 2.2
                                                        on 5 Apr 2005)

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You probably know the feeling of friendship quite well.

     You feel the truth about someone, and friendship follows:

     You discover, what you can and want to give to someone, and you
     try to give that,

     and you expect from another that he or she feels the truth about
     you, and (that he or she) also acts upon that.

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So we can define it:

     Friendship is feeling the truth about someone and discovering as
     a result, what you can and want to give to someone (or to many,
     if you can have many friendships), and to try to give that -

     and also expecting from another, to feel the truth about you, and
     that he or she also acts upon that.

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And now we can more easily look at the distortions and reversals that
 have been introduced:

     Friendship is NOT 'what you have to do and to know and to see, in
     order to get from others what you want.'

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     But Criminal Minds *(1) have made it seem like that, and they try
     very hard to make life, or even a whole society, be like that,

           because that is how THEY are and that is how THEY want
           people to be "friends" to them.

           Friendship is NOT 'to only see the mask that a Criminal
           Mind demands of you to accept as "being himself" (or as
           "being herself," of course).'

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                 A Criminal Mind wants you NOT to feel the truth about
                 him (nor about others),

                 but he wants that you feel

                      (also in order to make life with him "more easy
                       on you")

                 that the pretense "is being himself."

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                 When they demand "friendship," they demand that you
                 accept and think with and act upon their lies

                      "as if what they say, is the truth about
                       themselves," and "as if what they say, is the
                       truth about others."

                       But...

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           Friendship is NOT 'trying to get someone's approval or
           admiration or support,'

                 and getting it by finding out what you have to know
                 and see and do,

                 and what you then have to 'NOT see,' and what past of
                 them you then have to forget,

                 and which normal and decent things you then suddenly
                 must NOT do,

           in order to get their support.

                       But that is how Criminal Minds think and work
                       and operate - how they try to dominate you and
                       others.

                             Do NOT EVER FOLLOW THE INTENTIONS of a
                             Criminal Mind.
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     You are not like that - even when you are forced to act like
     that - it is not your nature, it is very much contrary to your
     nature, and contrary to the nature of any normal person.

                             Do NOT EVER FOLLOW THE INTENTIONS of a
                             Criminal Mind -

                                   under no circumstances, other than
                                   to tactically pretend so in order
                                   to carry out YOUR purpose, which
                                   also then is in fact very much the
                                   activity of

                             NOT FOLLOWING THE INTENTIONS of a
                             Criminal Mind.

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It is YOUR NATURE to be friends with people:

     To feel the truth about them, and

     to then see what they need, and

     to then try and provide (give) that,

     in accordance with own your abilities and possibilities, and

     in line with your personal preferences.  *(2)

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That is what people DO, normally

      - which you can observe directly, when some natural disaster
        happens somewhere

          (by definition, a natural disaster is not intended, nor
           caused by a Criminal Mind, and therefore it does NOT HAVE
           the Energy or INTENTION to harm people)

        and, where people do not have to detect, nor to oppose or to
        overcome, the Energy or INTENTION of a Criminal Mind (or of
        a group of Criminal Minds), it is then very easy for them to
        continue to feel their own nature and to follow it -

 to be friends with people,

     which is feeling the true condition of people, and then to see
     what they need, and wanting to provide that according to your own
     liking,

 because doing so IS the true nature of everyone

    (but not of Criminal Minds - as you may know, by now).  *(1)

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 It is only Criminal Minds *(3), who do enjoy to destroy actual
 friendship,

     also any actual friendship you give to them, (because they do not
     want you to feel the truth about them, and because)

     to them, "friendship" is only 'what one has to do and to know and
     to see in order to get from you and others what one wants;' and
     so

           they also force YOU to act like that to them ("you must
           know, or else be taught in various ways, what it is that
           they want, and that is what you must provide to them").

           But...

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 In actual friendship, you (are actively and constantly busy to) feel
 the truth about someone (and about many persons) *(4) and by that,

 you discover and feel in yourself, what you can and want to give to
 someone (or to many).  *(5)

 And in actual friendship, you are not acting upon feelings and ideas
 that a Criminal Mind projects to you about others and about yourself

     as if "you feel your own feelings and thoughts,"

 but you try and feel truth.  *(6)

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Koos Nolst Trenite "Cause Trinity"
human rights philosopher and poet


                                            'Men of all nations came
                                       to listen to Solomon's wisdom,
                                  sent by all the kings of the world,
                                         who had heard of his wisdom.'

                                                        1 Kings 4:34

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Footnotes:

(*)  As promised in:

     'Detecting Criminal Minds By Their Intentional Omission Of Truth'
       (19 August 2002 - Version 1.2)
http://www.googlegroups.com/group/soc.culture.europe/msg/23f9728424f08d7b?fwc=1
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(1)  'Rights of Criminal Minds' {HRI 20040108} (8 January 2004)
http://www.googlegroups.com/group/soc.culture.europe/msg/3f9790039517ef77?fwc=1

(2)  'The First Law of Economics' {HRI-20031201} (1 Dec 2003)
       (to be issued)

(3)  'Standard Behavior Of Criminal Minds' {HRI 20030509-V3.1}
       (9 May 2003 - Version 3.1 on 2 Dec 2004)
http://www.googlegroups.com/group/soc.culture.europe/msg/18cf685cdd5b76f1?fwc=1

(4)  'If Pilate Had Provided King Solomon's Justice...'
      {HRI 20041102-V1.3}
       (2 November 2004 - Version 1.3 on 2 Apr 2005)
http://www.googlegroups.com/group/human-rights-issues/msg/8a0076d89f741b32?fwc=1

(5)  'Defining Love And Hate - A Law Of Life'
       (29 July 2002 - Version 2.0i on 7 January 2003)
http://www.googlegroups.com/group/Koos-Nolst-Trenite/msg/40d2a6d4cadc84b1?fwc=1

(6)  'The Trinity Of Science - Truth, Love and Beauty'
       {HRI 20030307-pi-1-V2.1}
       (7 Mar 2003 - Version 2.1 on 17 Oct 2003)
http://www.googlegroups.com/group/soc.culture.europe/msg/4129fa4f1a67840e?fwc=1
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References:

     'If You Want Peace, Then Do Understand And Face Evil - A Short
      Course In Human Rights Philosophy' {HRI 20041225-V1.02}
       (25 December 2004 - Christmas Day)
http://www.googlegroups.com/group/soc.rights.human/msg/34578c4c3a9f0b22

     'The Feeling "When God Has Left You..."
      - Introduction to 'What is Hell' ' {HRI 20031124-V3.1}
       (24 November 2003 - Version 3.1 on 22 Feb 2005)
http://www.googlegroups.com/group/alt.religion/msg/23195f139766162f?fwc=1
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