BH>Sharon,  Since I just started polling this echo, could you give me some 
more
BH>background information about your situation?  I was adopted when I was a 
baby
BH>and met my natural mother 3 and half years ago  after not having any 
contact
BH>with her for 18 yrs, I might be able to give some advice..
        I'm happy for you and glad that it is working out for
you. Here is my situation, which differs from most, my
birthfather doesn't know I exist. My mom and stepfather raised
me. In fact, I just found out about my birthfather 3 years ago.
At first I was just going to let it go because I didn't want to
disrupt his life. I would hate causing him problems within his
present family. I have an address and phone number for him, that
is assuming it is him. His name, Boris, is far from common, so I
think it is safe to say it is him though.
BH> Since I do not know the situation you can disregard this part of the 
respons
BH>if it will not work for you,  If you know the adress where he lives (Which
BH>from reading the response I would assume that you do) write him a letter, 
hav
BH>it mailed.. State that you have been looking for him (Be honest with your
BH>feelings...) state that you would like to meet him (Be general) give him 
your
BH>phone number and politly ask him to call you and leave the rest in him 
hands.
BH>Be honest with your feelings, and belive in yourself that it will all work 
ou
BH>the way you want to... This is the best advice that I can give you at this
BH>time..
        I do think that the letter would work best for me since I
am much better at writing my feelings than speaking them. Thank
you for your encouragement.
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