-=> Quoting Jerry Schwartz to Judy Pineda <=-
 JS> I find it very difficult to deal with problems which have no solution
 JS> - by nature I'm a fixer of things.  But you can't fix a person.  I
 JS> tend to withdraw from situations like that, which is very bad. 
 JS> Fortunately my wife deals pretty well with him.  We just don't know
 JS> what to do, we can't trust him to do the things a kid his age should
 JS> do and yet we feel rotten when we restrict him so tightly.  He's
 JS> getting restive, too, so more and more our attempts to control him are
 JS> met with evasion. 
 JS> We explain to him over and over again that if he acts in a trustworthy
 JS> manner, we'll start to trust him more; but that just doesn't "take" in
 JS> a deep enough way. 
 JS> Jerry Schwartz
 I understand exactly what you mean.  My kids have been doing better in the
 behavioral department.  Then all of a sudden these past two weeks they have
 been scary.  Reasoning with a ADD child is not easy to do.  I just sent
 my kid to talk to a parent about his bike.  I told him to come straight
 home.  Should be gone not more than a half and hour.  Its been about 1 1/2
 hours.  I know where he is at, but I want to see about how long it will
 take him to decide he better come home.  I will call the parent and talk
 to her in a few and tell her to tell him to go home in a few if he doesn't
 do it.  Now mind you how easy they forget.  This is like pulling teeth;
 trying to get them to take some responsibilities on their own.  And trust--
 that is a very difficult thing for me to have with my two boys.  Well we
 are working on it and hopefully something will sink in.  I just keep
 trying unique ways to help them use more than one sense to grasp
 what I mean.  Sometimes I forget and just say do this and that just doesn't
 work.
 Regina
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