0n (21 Apr 05) WAYNE CHIRNSIDE wrote to CINDY HAGLUND...

-> HEY come back here !!! We have woof woof to do!

 WC> Pit Bull still contentedly hogging the center of the bed as usual.

  We're going to be having a new canine buddy soon...  brain is
cooking up names already but if we adopt from a shelter most likely
we'll keep whatever name the sweetie has already unless it needs to be
changed.

I was thinking this morning how the brain works wrt grief. How you
automatically remember things you used to do like dispense medicine
for example. You have to make yourself get used to not having to do
that anymore. You have to 'break' the habit. And that
is not the only habit to break. You have to stop speaking of your dogs
in plural form. And catch yourself calling the live one by his buddy's
name. And you have to try not to think about that spot he took on your
bed... next to you on the couch.. and with you on walks. The brain is
a thing of habits. We make them and then we often have to break 'em...

The only way to help is to fill those empty places up as fast as you
can.. start in on new habits and create new memories. The old habits
fade but the memories don't. Yet those memories somehow become less
touched by loss. Cherished happily instead.

Cindy

... A conspiracy of silence speaks louder than words.

--- PPoint 3.01