MH>Don't back your birthfather into any corners!
        That is exactly what I want to avoid.
MH>Drive past the house, yes; but do not intrude.  Indeed, it would be better
MH>if he didn't know anyone was searching, for a bit.
        Actually my uncle scared me when he suggested that we
stop to talk to him. I'm not ready for that move yet. Judging his
age I really don't want to wait too long though. I would like
some time to get to know him. It may already be too late. :-(
MH>Think about it: what would you two say: "I'm looking for the guy who
MH>impregnated my mother, but who doesn't know it.  Are you the one?"
        I wouldn't say that. Honestly, I'm at a total loss as to
what to say to him. I kind of like saying I'm doing the Genealogy
study, then maybe ease into the fact that he may be my father. I
would just hope that he didn't feel deceived by me presenting
myself falsely. He already has been deceived by my mom, as I was
deceived by her. Heck, this guy may not even be the same person.
MH>You're right: the idea of you must be revealed gradually.
MH>I think I like the idea of talking with the clergy.
        I have seen and heard the pros and cons on talking to the
clergy. Maybe I'll talk to a priest around here and see what he
thinks. Unfortunately, not all clergy adher to the
confidentiality thing and if he is real active in his church,
this could shed a bad light on him. I would never want to do that
to him either.
        I'm still confused and scared on how to handle this.
 * OLX 2.1 TD * I find myself beside a stream of empty thoughts.
-*- Opus-CBCS 1.7x via O_QWKer 1.7 
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